This is going to be a long one. Apologies in advance...
So myself and my partner met at work 3.5 years ago and started "seeing each other" 3 years ago. He had separated from his wife 8 months before and would confide in me about a lot of his issues and feelings developed between us.
His relationship with his friends and family was non existent due to constant controlling behaviour from his ex wife.
I helped him rebuild these relationships.
We travelled to visit his family regularly working on fractured bonds with his mum dad and sister and making a bond with his niece who he had never met.
A regular topic of conversation with them was how his ex wife had ruined everything and that they had only met 1 of his 3 children and that it upset them.
Fast forward 3 years we have a daughter together who is 1 in less than 2 months time. His dad and sister have met her once and his mum I'd say 3 times.
There has been some challenges along the 3 years obviously a relationship cannot go from never speaking for 4+ years to all roses and fluffy kittens.
I sit here now feeling severe resentment. I feel guilty that my poor daughter has no relationship with her daddy's parents just like me growing up.
They don't even text and ask if she is ok. I send pictures every month, the last time i didn't even get a reply!
Would you confront them? Would you let them know they are letting her down and missing out?
Or do I leave it residing on the fact that I cannot change them?
Advise would be greatly appreciated xx