Hello
Searching for some unbiased opinions here...wondering if I'm the one being unreasonable.
I have just broken up with my boyfriend of 5 months. After 1 month he told me his ex was still living in his house as she was trying to buy a place and that she Would be moving out mid June. After that date passed I started to ask questions, ask him to talk to her, see what was happening. He didn't do anything. We had a huge argument late July and broke up...but then he said he would talk to.her and I was going on holiday so I gave him another chance. When I came back we had another argument because he was suspicious of my behaviour whilst I was away because he saw an innocent text and got the wrong idea. So there was his excuse for not speaking to the ex because he had been too upset.
Then apparently she wasn't there for the whole of August. We went away together end of August. He stayed away for longer. We had a wonderful time together. When he got back he broke up with me after I had a male friend over one Saturday night for a takeaway. I knew he didn't like me spending time with my male friends but we really disagree on this...I've always had male friends.
I stupidly begged and pleaded forgiveness but he wouldn't budge said he needed more time etc. In the end I got so angry I realised he wasn't worth it so I effectively dumped him a few days later.
A few days later he comes back tail between his legs apologising, I said no...we have too many problems, jealousy, communication and your ex. He wanted to meet me and talk and i said absolutely not until you have talked to your ex and asked her to move out. I said don't contact me over the weekend. So yesterday he gets in touch again, still hasn't talked to her but says she is definitely there because her food is in the kitchen.
It's my birthday in 2 weeks and I've been adamant and said I will not see him until he talks to her and that if I spend my birthday without him I won't be able to forgive that. He said relax baby there's no time limit to which I got angry and said yes there is ! You have until the end of the week.. you've had 3 months! He responds and says because of this conversation he won't have the conversation this week as I'm forcing him. To me it's just one excuse after another and he's never going to have the conversation with her. He's a coward and is just waiting for her to tell him the news. But he hasn't had an update since April!
Last night in the end i said that's it. It's fully over. I've blocked him so he can't contact me as he keeps getting in touch telling me he misses me and he's been crying etc but yet he's putting her feelings before mine.
They broke up in December 9 months ago. She lives in the spare room rent free. When she asked to stay he said yes you can stay as long as you want not thinking he would get into a relationship so soon after. He says he loves me he has no feelings for her he wants to live with me have children with me etc. But I just think I'm being taken for a mug. He says he doesn't like to go back on his word when he said she could stay and that she won't be there forever.
Thoughts?