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I need to leave OH ASAP!

5 replies

donttknowhattodo · 25/09/2018 15:38

I'm sick of my OH I can't take it anymore he is so controlling I need to leave. He makes me feel on edge all the time he's just come back from work and he's starting again.

He is constantly checking up on me I keep changing my phone password he finds it out again, he logs in my emails, checks my social media.
My family have been here visiting the baby and he keeps sharing our arguments in front of them and making out I'm crazy.

I have some money in my account what is for him he doesn't know it's gone back in yet but keeps asking me to show him my account so I keep coming up with excuses why I can't show him.

I want to keep the money and leave with my babies I'm so tired of him. My mum has no clue about any of this I try and put on a act when she's here (she's here now) but I can't anymore.
I need to leave!!

How on earth can I leave without it blowing up I feel like it will get really messy.

Apologies for the lack of punctuation sat on the toilet writing this while the bastard is waiting for me on the other side of the door!

OP posts:
turnaroundbrighteyes · 25/09/2018 15:41

Tell your Mum and leave with her.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 25/09/2018 15:41

Oh Gosh, sounds utterly suffocating. Could you send a text to your Mum saying you need to talk to her away from him? Are you safe?

Nubian22 · 25/09/2018 15:46

Hi, you can do this. Think of your children. Can you get you passports and important documents together and leave with yiur mother? Keep strong

Cloudyapples · 25/09/2018 15:49

Open a new account with a different bank and move the money ASAP

hellsbellsmelons · 25/09/2018 16:24

Yes, open a new account tomorrow.
Can you tell your mum?
Would she be supportive?
Could you live with her initially?
Can you go out for a 'girlie' drink a little later and tell her everything?

When you can, contact Womens Aid and have a chat with them.
They may be able to help you with a safe exit plan if your mum can't help you.
It will be hard. Admitting it to someone in RL is scrary.
It makes it real. But it is real and you need some support.

What is the housing situation?
Renting? Mortgage? Who's name?
Has he ever been violent?

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