Bit of background, I was in an abusive relationship which I ended 21/2 years ago, it was horrendous and found comfort from a close male (married) friend. In my vulnerability we started an emotional affair, I sought advise from here and ended things.
About a year and a half ago I started seeing a guy that a friend suggested, all was great although my mental health was (and still is) a bit 'fragile' I sent a txt on the advise of a friend to basically ask what was going on if we were moving forward or just friends with benefits, this was after a few months his response was not really in the relationship mind frame at the moment. So I left him to it.
Fast forward to now we have reconnected after his relationship after me has broken down. Second date and we had sex, kind of felt like it wasn't wrong as we knew each other and it's not like meeting someone new and jumping into bed with them iyswim. But before I could stop myself I went straight in with 'no romance just sex' except that isn't what I want. I treat myself like shit before anyone else has a chance to, and make myself worthless and just good for a shag so as to save embarrassment that I could possibly be with more.
So we have another date lined up. What do I do? I do actually like the guy but does he just see me as an interim as that's what I've made myself? Do I say something? Tell him the truth or just go with the standard I've set? Any advise, thanks for reading!