I've posted before about H. 20 years married. Been through a lot. I can't really expand much as outing but I've had everything from physical abuse in the first few years to the point I've had to fight my corner a lot through to him messaging other women, hiding debt, 20 year drink issue.
I've reached the point where I'm numb and have told him I can't do this ( marriage) any more.
Here's my problem. He won't go. He won't sort his finances in order to get his own place. He's in denial.
I spend nights at friends just to avoid him and sleeping on the sofa. He holds on to any glimmer of hope but I just am so numb to him and his rubbish I can't talk to him, can't look at him...but feel so sorry for him.
Should I be more assertive now? I feel I'm getting past the point of taking a back step but it's so tough to see someone I've been with for so long in a new, unemotional light.
I can't wait for him to go but yet again, I have to organise it because he's so useless.
Is this a form of control? Is he acting stupid and useless just so he can get attention from me? I feel so naive....how do I approach the next step?