Hi, I’ll try and keep this short and to the point. Me and my partner of 13 years have recently split, after me wanting to get away I finally have and we have a daughter aged 5. My ex partner had many issues he was very controlling and I feel emotionally abusive aswell as having complete control of our finances despite me working full time he had no job for the past few years. He is a gambler and a drinker and basically got us into such a mess financially we lost our home which was rented. Me and my daughter have finally got away and currently back with my parents. My ex partner is renting a room and since I have left does nothing but beg for money constantly, doesn’t pay any maintenance and expects me to fund him from my tax credits which are for our daughter. I’m finding it so difficult to cut that emotional tie with him despite everyone just saying I can’t help him just say no. He’s constantly wearing me down and i just don’t know what to do. For my daughters sake I want to help as much as I can, everytime I say no he turns on me and uses our daughter as emotional blackmail saying he’ll take her from me as she lives with me. His family don’t want anything to do with him due to his pathological lying and money borrowing. Any advice appreciated