So I've been married for 3.5 years, with my DH for 10. There's an age gap which I never viewed as an issue before, I'm in my 30's hes in his 50's. Being vague in case someone who knows us reads this and guesses who. I've always been on a specific career path, he knew this when he met me, and the last 7 years my job has been based in the same place 1.5-2 hours drive from where we live. The public transport option is much longer, complicated, and very expensive. I accepted this because I love my work and I'm very specialised so I can't pick and choose where I work. I commuted for 7 years, DH won't move, uses his parents as an excuse. I just couldn't do it anymore this year, so for 5 months I stayed in a hotel 1 night a week at my own cost. But it worked out better for me to end up renting here and travel home at the weekend. Much more cost effective too. The issue is that DH has only been here once in 5 months. He doesn't seem to want to know anything about my life here, be involved etc despite me trying to get him to be to begin with. And largely he still works a Saturday when I'm home so I've started staying here till sat afternoon so that I can have a social life here. I feel I missed out on that for 7 years. Couldn't socialise at work as was driving straight home and was home too late to do stuff at home because of driving. So I feel I tried and sacrificed a lot. DH resents my career etc and it's creating a rift, we are growing apart and barely communicating. I don't want to have to "tell" DH to visit me because he doesn't take things like that well. I really don't know what to do :-(