should i stay or should i go...............

[spogs]

i have just found out my partner has been internet flirting [look on is internet flirting cheating thread]after endless arguements found out he is doing it again i have two young children and would hate to split up family but at the same time cannot live with it either so do i chuck him out or not?????

surely you must have a view?

what do you mean?

What is your gut feeling?
Do you want a life without him? Is he willing to see your point of view?

well, you open a post about leaving your dp with just 1 sentence - what do you think you should do?

i dont want to go but i cant see him giving it up

hi there spogs, i am pretty new to internet - what is internet flirting? it sounds just like chat up rooms to me. You say that your dp is doing it "again" - what happened last time you found out - did you split up?

With two young children you must be very stressed by this.

yes very stressed internet flirting like chtting to girls exchanging numbers but never meeting

what does he say about it?
Why on earth will he not stop?

how awful

my dh went through a spell of looking at internet porn and then denying it but i had all the evidence on the history button!

how did you deal with it before, i mean, what is your gut feeling spogs - do you feel he may be meeting up with girls this time round?

There is a HUGE difference between looking at porn and being interactive though

yes i know it is difference countess dracula

dont know why he wont stop says he has a prob and cant!!!!!

well if he admits he has a prob then whip him into counselling sharpish!
Tell him that unless he does that your relationship is under threat

will councilling help though

well it might help him work out why he feels the need to do this and how he can justify it to himself given how unhappy it makes you

I mean, why would anyone risk their marriage for a bit of online flirting?

How much of a social life do you and your DP have, together or separately? Because lots of time spend chatting on line indicates, at least, the need for company and different conversations. It might be that more socialising in general (do you have other friends with DCs of a similar age who live nearby? How about a few informal barbecues or meet-ups)

Could be lack of self-esteem or confidence
needs ego bolstering etc

he now has said he sometimes feels the grass is greener and i feel gutted to hear that as here has me and his two girls surly there is more here for him...... he says he is here still so does not see why that comment upsets me as he can see its worth fighting for but i feel gutted by the fact he feels life could be better without us