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My ex already has a new girlfriend and she's pregnant after only 3 months

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charleze2018 · 23/09/2018 15:39

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Today 15:28 charleze2018

So we've been on and off for about 9 years and we have a three-year-old son together he just been released from jail he's been suffering from alcoholism and I have been there for him during the time that we were together. He just spent a year in and got out he was on work release and he actually ended up meeting a younger woman and he eventually got her pregnant and now has moved in with her. The calls have become less and less. To move things right along me and her eventually found out about each other and we had some words she told me she didn't even know about me and didn't even know that we had a child together. He had only told her about his first kids mother she also didn't know that he had a kid with another woman. I am informed her that not only do we have a child together but we were still sexually active and she let me know that he has told her he wanted to marry her and move in together and I was hurt. Well he got out and went to be with her and I haven't heard from him. later I found out that I was also pregnant I haven't even told him not sure if I want to tell him not sure if I want to keep the baby everything is so messy right now. I am more hurt than all we've been through it's was so easy for him to be released and go be with the woman that he barely knows get her pregnant and move in with her. I felt like all we've been through and all I've put up with the cheating the drinking in and out of jail and then me helping him and staying in his corner meant nothing to him for him to just get out and go be with her. I couldn't understand why he would knock her up knowing that we have a three-year-old child you should be here helping me instead of making more children and then he has other kids with other women that he's not helping with either but he did tell her about the first two why would he want to go and make another child and help her with this child and not be there for the ones that he aIready has? I tried to contact him about 5 days ago to find that my number was blocked I couldn't believe it I was devastated I just need to know how to get through this and if anyone has been through this. Did he come around did the new relationship last? I will say that the girls very young she's only 22 we're in on our late 30s and when we did have that brief argument she did let me know that when he was incarcerated she was putting money on his books she was helping him get things fixed on his car she was getting him money and she was planning on giving him her second car which is a newer car and I'm wondering if it's just that he is taking advantage of her but I mean if he is I think that's disgusting also to turn your back on your kids just so you could be with the woman that helps you financially just need advice. Please don't be rude.

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JusttheTwoofUs3110 · 24/09/2018 08:32

You shouldn't expect a normal reaction from a cheating criminal with a drinking problem. Nothing he does should come as a surprise, and you can forget about him ever acting like a responsible adult. He's, simply put, a fucked up human being, and shouldn't be enywhere near your son. Or you, for that matter.

Do you have means for raising two child by yourself? Can you count on your close family and friends for help? These are questions I'd be asking myself, before deciding to keep the baby.
Stay strong and keep him away from you and your child/children. He really has nothing good to offer.

JusttheTwoofUs3110 · 24/09/2018 08:33

Two children, not child.

Ta77Blonde · 24/09/2018 12:08

Unfortunately you just have to suffer through these emotions but know the hurt will eventually fade. They will go and you have to put yourself and your kids first before any man. Concentrate on the three of you now. Learn to be alone and happy. Plan your future with your children and for your children. They are the only people in the world you need right now. Leave this tramp of a man to his next victim.

This hurt will pass!

charleze2018 · 24/09/2018 22:40

He's not always drunk hes sober enough to know what he's doing

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