was my mums birthday and organised for lots of friends and family to come out for meal.
My brother who wouldnt come(because i wdidnt go to his wedding..long story, his wife hates me?), said he may come after i rang to build bridges for mams sake, but didnt turn up.
everyone was asking what happend, then mams olsdest friend and my auntie(her sil) were twling me about my mum and brother and when she was pg.
they said that her mum carried a knife in her bag for months threatening to kill my mum for getting pg, then when mum had brother she set wheels in motion for adoption, it was only mums friend who i was speaking to that talked her out of it and thrust brother into mumus, mums arms and asked her how she could do it.
now, me and brother dont get along anymore(for about 2 years now)he was always favoured by my mum, but thats not reason, his wife doesnt like the close relationship we had, we were very clsoe brother and sister, going out for nigths out with friends together etc etc..but now it makes sense to me WHY mum favours him more, she had so much trouble having him/keeping him and getting people to accept him, that she has always felt like she has to protect him.
my mum either knows nothing about what her mam did/said or doesnt want to say cos shes never mentioned this, but feel sad she went through that and kind of sad for brother, even though he rejects all offers of reunion, i kind of feel mixed up now?
his dad never stucka round and mine might as well not have, but feel weird about ti all now?