Online encounter

[tamzinro]

Do I meet a guy I have only talked to for 9 months online at my home for sex? As simple as that ... I'm tempted to take a risk but would like to know his history first , how do I find out his history ? Criminal record etc thanks

You absolutely don’t meet him at your home if you’ve never met in real life before. Quite apart from anything else you have no idea if there’ll be any chemistry until he’s in front of you no matter how long you’ve been talking online.

Use some common sense.

Oh god NO. Regardless to criminal history or not he could be anyone!

Get a day room. Between9and5.com or dayuse.com

If you get on well then invite him to your home for dates 3/4!

I'd chatted online/text a guy for about 6 weeks...we hit it off and one evening arranged to meet at my house. That was 3 years ago, we married last month. I took a chance, we both did...and it worked out amazingly well. But we're likely the exception rather than the norm x

Not really a relationship issue, is it, if it's just about sex?

Seems quite a bad idea to use each other this way anyway, but if you're set on doing it...
meet in a public place initially, so you can leave if you get a bad feeling
Book a room somewhere, don't go to your place, or his
Tell someone you trust that you'll confirm you're ok at a particular time, and give them as much info as you have on who he is, so that if you don't get in touch, they can call the police to find you.
Use a barrier method, and have std check afterwards (nothings infallible, you may get herpes, or even aids).
Avoid telling him where you live (if you haven't already!) - if he's wierd or creepy you really don't want him repeatedly showing up.
So, good luck (I mean that genuinely)

If you get on well then invite him to your home for dates 3/4!
This isn't dating though, the OP is quite clear they are meeting for sex.

Oh okay smeee (did you go to my school? kent/sussex border?)

If you get on well then invite him to your home for sex-date 3-4

Jesus 🙄

Have you checked his Facebook/social media so you know he is the person he says he is ?

It’s extremely risky to invite him to your house for the first encounter. Know you have said it’s just sex but can meet him first for a coffee first to see if you actually fancy him? Also maybe use a hotel? The cheap kind with very thin walls so that someone will hear if your being attacked . Sorry I probably have watched to many serial killer docs but safety first.
I’d also let a close friend know what your plans are.

9 months is a long time.. have you seen pictures? Have full name, details etc?

I'd go hotel for a first meeting as already suggested.

I actually think you shouldn’t do this. Don’t you have any male friends that you can have a fwb situation instead . That way you probably know they aren’t some axe murderer

Nooo! Meet in public for a drink with a hotel/airbnb on standby if the chemistry is right. You absolutely cannot tell if you want to have sex with someone until you meet them.

Don't invite him to yours though, that means you basically can't leave without leaving a stranger in your home. If he refused to go your only option would be the police.

Also make sure a friend knows where you are and who you're with. He might be fine and it all goes great, but you'll be glad of the precautions if it goes badly.

Axe murderer possible, but unlikely. Rapist much more likely. You meet up, don't fancy him, but he doesn't take kindly to being turned down.

Twatty stalker type you can't get rid of, is definitely a possibility.

So no, not at your house, and don't give out your address.
Not alone anywhere, the first time you meet.