What do you make of this?

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So I want an unbiased opinion on my relationship.

We have been together for 16 months and the context of our relationship is that we are seeking a long term commutes relationship.

We see each other 2/3 times per week depending on my partners shifts and when he sees his kids. He usually comes to my house but one weekend a month we spend together usually with no kids and do usually do something. One weekend a month he works and the other 2 he has his kids. When he comes round it's usually evenings during the week and Sundays depending on his shifts. He's met me son loads of times since December last year. I've met his kids about 4/5 times. A few at his house and once out at an event with my son. He has his kids about 10 days out of the month but the frequency varies due to shifts. His keeps are pre teen. We live about 12 miles apart. We haven't met each other's friends or families yet and haven really spoke about this. We text daily, usually about 25-50 text between us throughout the day. We don't often talk on the phone. We tell each other we love each other, we get on really well together and there's really good chemistry.
Also we are 33 and 40 and have both been married. Me separated 2 years and him 5 years.
I'm just wondering really without saying what I think, what people's opinions are on this relationship, at this stage, given our circumstances and that we are in this relationship with a view to it being long term and have a future together. What would you be thinking if you were me?

Do you want to live with him? If so, then you need to ask him of he wants the same and see if you can agree on a time frame.

It all sounds fine, have you both talked about where this is going and what your time frames are ideally?

Is there a reason that you haven't met friends yet?

I should have added that in respect if friends, neither us are massively social people so don't see friends that much so apart from one occasion nothing has really come up involving friends that we could have both gone to together as we only really see them on special occasions. As we don't see each other that much our time together is focussed on ourselves too and spending time together so I think that's why we haven't arranged anything socially. I have been invited to a wedding today and invited him to come with me so that will be the first time if nothing comes up before then.

We've had general chats about the future but nothing recent. I find it hard to know what's normal for a relationship in this context..... ie how fast to move, how often to see each other etc.

I find it hard to know what's normal for a relationship in this context..... ie how fast to move, how often to see each other etc

How fast do you want to move? How often do you want to see him?

For me, I’d say, if it ain’t broke don’t fix it.

What's best for your son?

I'm confused as to what's the question. It all sounds good to me and going at a suitable pace considering kids involved on both sides! Just keep enjoying it and let things naturally evolve