It's been one week

[onemoresmartie]

Since me and my bf split up. I am fine in the week because I throw myself into work but today with no plans and all my friends and family have partners I feel so alone...I have had a couple of messages from him and I am so tempted to reconnect with him just for some company as I do miss him

Please tell me this isn't a good idea...

Why did you split up?

Don't do it. Distract yourself with something, cleaning always helps me as it's something to enjoy after the effort. Or do a home pedicure? Oil treatment for your hair? Search online for activity groups you might like to join? Post on Mumsnet? 😁

We split up last week because he lies, he's a gambler, I still think he's using drugs and our relationship just wasn't working and isn't what I want but neither is being single and sat in on my own on a Saturday night
He has tried to call me quite a lot over the past few days and I've managed to ignore the calls but today I feel like reaching out to him.

I miss the good parts of our relationship not that there was many

He sounds like a nightmare — you’re well rid. Take yourself to dinner or the movies, cook an elaborate meal, do something you enjoy alone to fill the time, then start googling classes or hobbies that can fill up your weekends. I took up aikido and got a museum membership when I was unhappy to be single — both hugely helpful, but volunteering or joining a park running group would be just as good and free You have a real opportunity to use this as a force for good in your life. All it takes is a little courage.

its hard but stay strong! sounds like your well rid.

There you go - hes a twat and a user. Mive on

In the past I have given my phone to a neighbour when Ive wanted to not reply but knew I probably would.
I would far rather be lonely than im a bad relationship.

I just feel empty. I literally hardly have any adult interaction

Not wanting to be alone is not a good reason to get back into a bad relationship. Find yourself a hobby, club or fitness class you could go to on days you're alone so you have something you enjoy and can look forward to.

Find a nice little pub with live entertainment, take a book and spend time there. You should make some friends like that, in a nice relaxed ambience.