I doubt myself

[Sweetmummy77]

Ok so here goes.
Was in the early days of what could have been a new relationship. The guy went a little odd on me to say the least. He told me that he was feeling anxious about things and didn't want to go back to a sad place? (We also work for the same company)
I backed off massively, with no contact. after a few days he blocked me on whatsapp. (Childish I know) after a week he has appeared on my whatsapp again. Everyday he comes up to the office with no real reason and stares at me. So i decided as i hot desk to move to an area he would not go to. My reason is I need space from all of this as it is getting to me. A manager witnessed his strangeness and felt he was almost jealous towards me talking to him. Which backed I was making the right choice.
I was settling into my new area today and next thing I know the guy in question appears. No reason to be in this office at all. Doesn't talk to me but makes his presence known. I just really don't get him. He wanted space I have given it to him. I need time to find myself and space to get over all of this. I did think the world of him but he hurt me. I need space away from the games as i really dont understand him. My confidence is quite low at the moment and I doubt my own judgement.

As I'm reading it, your last communication with him was "I'm here whenever you want me"?

Personally I'd make it "You had your chance and you dipped"

Totally agree. When I last spoke to him I told him I felt neither of us are emotionally ready for anything. I gave him the option to say how he felt which is when I got the im anxious. So I felt there was nothing left to say. So that was that in my book. Surely even he must see that??

Please don't even consider dating this man again. He sounds unhinged. The only reason you should ever acknowledge his presence is if it's work related. He will be nothing but a problem if you let him back into your life.

You are right and it worries me how easily I felt it was me. Still hurts as he was lovely at the beginning. I just feel I may have had a close escape.

Sounds like he want to say something but finds it difficult? Doesn't matter though does it because even if this is the case, a relationship with someone who finds it hard to communicate would be a pain in the arse!

All he has to do is talk to me and I told him that at the time.

I also agree it would be a nightmare as things are. I just feel really sad about it and also puzzled by his actions.

He's being really odd, stalker-y. Don't engage.

I get the feeling he expected you to beg for him back and now he's dropping by to remind you what you've 'lost' and fill you with desire what a strange man.

I agree with Category12, does sound stalkery, very odd behaviour, made me feel uneasy.

His behaviour has genuinely puzzled me and that is why I wanted to put some distance between us. I also need time to sort my head out and by him doing that I keep going backwards. I don't like games and that's how it feels at the moment.

You could move desks again. If he follows you, politely inform him that you don’t want any contact and that you’ll be contacting HR re workplace harassment if he persists.
That should get the message across.
And whether he’s actually mentally unhinged or not, he’d be a pain in a relationship, with all his mind games and emotional angst. You’ve dodged a bullet, OP!

Thankfully I'm off next week until Friday so will get some space. It will come to that if it continues. This is not normal and agree I think I have dodged the bullet. I just don't understand why I have felt so bad! I didn't do anything wrong or acted un accordingly.