Do people still get married?

[TerryTucker]

I hope I can explain this properly. What I mean is if two people are in a relationship wouldn't they ultimately get married if they love each other and if not is this suspect or one or both just waiting for the next best thing?

Not everyone wants to get married, for various reasons. General attitude to marriage and children is really something to discuss early in a relationship.

That said, there are an awful lot of threads on here from women who have children with a man and think this will make him want to marry her. Or, the man says he doesn't believe in marriage and then gets engaged to his next girlfriend after 6 months.

I've been with my OH 15 years and we get married in a few weeks. There were times I thought it wouldn't happen but I'm happy with everything we have and have had

Some people get married, some don't.

I know people who have been together over 20 years and just don't want to get married. They seem very happy.

my daughter and her partner get married tomorrow and have been together 6 years

I only know one couple who have been together 10 years plus with kids who aren’t married. All the rest I know got married eventually or split up!

Apparently they do but I don't know whatever for!!! It's just one big fucking disappointment!

Yes there definitely seems to be some kind of misleading going on in life in saying it's going to be some kind of fairytale

Been with my other half for more than 15 years. We both have children but not collectively . I'm the early days of our relationship I would have loved to been proposed to. As the years went by , and I'm sure it's the same for both, you almost get to know each other too well - warts and all ! Yes I love him but also ( and I'm sure I'm not alone here 😉 ) there are times where I could just pack a bag and go ! We have been discussing marriage in the past year or so but so far haven't done anything about it.

I’ve been with DP almost 3 years and I don’t think marriage will ever be on the cards for us. He’s been married before. Said he never wants to do it again. Didn’t bring him anything more than what a committed relationship does. Coming from divorced parents, I’m really not too fussed on marriage either because it can still break. Marriage doesn’t signify security for me.

The only real reason I’d want to get married is to have the same name as DCs when we have them.

Marriage is a contract that gives you rights in law.

Especially if you are going to stop / slow down your career to be a SAHP, or if you are living in a home 'owned' by the other but you are actually paying for eg shopping/bills to balance the mortgage paid by the other.

Get married, or don't. But don't whinge if the non married DP goes off in 15 years leaving you with no career and no home.

By way of balance and accuracy. Marriage does not automatically provide you with security. The home needs to be paid for as does a career sacrifice. It can be expensive to get into (although that’s a choice) and time consuming and expensive to get out of.

At the start you merge ownership of wealth and income. At the end you split it. If the wealth at the beginning and end are significant, you need to think carefully about what is right for you both. It’s worth having an open discussion about your respective attitudes to money, income and parenting and how you would resolve them within your marriage.

To wait until you divorce to find out half your equity and half a pension pot isn’t enough to live off, is going to be shock. Time and a career can solve a lot of financial problems, don’t run out of either and don’t rely on somebody else for these. Married or not.