That's it really. I wonder some days if I'm in a 40's U curve slump, it will pass. We chat together and enjoy watching tv together and I obvioulsy enjoy family stuff. We were happy for a number of years, it didn't bother me then doing the emotional heavy lifting but now I've changed and would like more.
I don't want to sleep with DH currently, as he puts minimal emotional effort in out relationship. He won't discuss past hurts, he doesn't want to discuss sex or my current needs. He wants things to carry on. He focuses heavily on his job. Second is kids. He just isn't romantic. I have stopped enjoying social stuff with him as he's pretty self-involved.
All this I've communicated. There doesn't seem a way in which I could give him a shock to get him to wake up and prioritise 'us'. So I want some romance, hand holding (we never did that) and great sex in my life. Or should I stick this out? I feel like I'm going slowly numb inside.