Taking your kid dating?

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Why do men think your kid can go dating with you???

I'm a single mum. I'm losing count with OLD of the amount of time it's suggested to me by men that they would like to meet my child by me bringing them ON the first date!

Firstly if I'm on a first date there's no way I want to be interrupted every few mins by a child wanting a wee, or a game of I-Spy, or a snotty nose needing a wipe

But secondly - WTF would a child want to go on dates with their mum???

I do struggle with free time, and obviously need to find some childcare that allows me to date and not fuck up my child but some people are fortunate enough to have free time in school hours, or in similar position so okay with not being able to go out every weekend etc so it's not impossible

But WTF are so many men suggesting they don't mind me bringing along my child on a first date?

I'm sure there's more vulnerable single mothers than myself out there who might bloody take them up on the idea and it horrifies me that children tagging along on first, second or third dates with what's essentially a stranger with a possible romantic interest in their mum!

Then when you say a firm "NO" child will not be coming... they argue with you like it's a positive thing for a child to do!! Which just makes them seem like creepy predators though probably they're just a bit stupid

Sounds creepy and weird to suggest you bring your kid/s. Definite no-no.

If a man suggests bringing your child along on a first date run for the bloody hills.

They seem like creepy predators because that's exactly what they are.

Think you answered your own question with the creepy predators comment. I've never known a man want children on a date - let alone a first. I wouldn't bring children to a first date with someone I knew let alone an OLD

Thanks I think it's a rant more than a question

If it was one guy... he'd be blocked and forgotten

But I'm finding plenty of men suggest this stupidity

And it worries me because myself I'm a victim of DV, I've done the freedom programme etc and clearly seem to be attracting men who put this out there like a favour to single mums

I won't but it frightens me other women may actually go along with this!!!

Child molesters make a beeline for vulnerable single mothers. That's why most dating sites forbid photos that include your DC.

I've never been asked to bring my DC on a date. If anyone had asked me I would have dropped them like a hot stone.

You're absolutely right to be suspicious.

I would be very concerned as to how you consistently attract these men. What impression are you giving out. Sorry this is in no way saying it's you, just that how are you getting more than one such situation.

Honestly, fuck knows! But I don't like it

That’s really fucking weird!

I’ve never been asked to bring my kids on a date ever, very off and if anyone ever did ask they’d be blocked pdq

I've had 3 women either suggest they take their kids on a first date, or I take mine. Not been impressed either time tbh, kids and adult relationships do not mix.

I’ve never experienced this either. Maybe you are saying you are keen to meet up but don’t have any time because of your child and then they suggest it trying to help?

Do you say that you can’t go on dates because you are struggling with childcare that’s all I can think of. My sister does online dating and is a single mum I just asked her if she got this but she said no.

In the best possible scenario, they want to help you feel at ease by making sure you know that the kid isn't a problem for you. They're honestly trying to be considerate.

In the worst possible scenario... people have already mentioned predators so I'll leave that there.

A polite refusal seems the best way to deal with it, and if they keep suggesting it then as everyone else has said I'd GTFO.

To be fair you do say you need to sort out childcare so that you can date so you might not be leaving them much option.

Yeah I do say that it's not always easy e.g. I might have to wait a fortnight or so from talking to someone before I can meet in person sometimes

But even then tbh it's just such a strange suggestion!