I have been married for 12 years, together for nearly 20 ( met in our teens ) we have 3 under 5 dc, the baby is 1 tommorow.
My husband is terrible with money and consistantly lies to my face and today it has all come to a head when at 7am a baliff came to our house and put a clamp on my car because he hasnt paid any council tax for god know how long. I had to phone my dad to pay for it. We live next door to the school that my older dc attend and all the teacher are driving past my house seeing this, i feel utterly humiliated, not to mention the neighbours seeing it all going on.
Ive told him that i cant do this anymore and that im not raising children in a house where we are afraid to answer the door.
He has said he had fucked up and i can just have all the money and take over, this has just made me more angry because why should i have to do this when i am married to an adult man.
For context he earns enought to pay all the bills and have some left over for non essentials, i pay for food and fuel and some left over for stuff like birthdays and christmas etc.
I dont know what to do anymore, i have asked him over the last few months if there was anything going that i didnt know about and he has point blank lied to my face. Im just so sick of it.
Feel like i should also add that my mum died two months ago so i am all over the place mentally, so i dont know if this is clouding my judgement as right now i just want to tell him i dont want to be married anymore.
For what its worth he is a great dad and my kids absolutely adore him.