When during you relationship/marriage did you decide to start a family?

[Cosmogirl]

I have recently started to get broody. Been with husband for seven years married for just over two.
I was wondering, how long were you together/married before you had your first child? And was your partner as keen on the idea of having children as you?

My DH is the same!!! I was very organised with TTC...right down to the point that he would come in and say is such and such a day ok for me to do a night shift (he's a lab worker) and I'd say er...no....

Why?

I'm ovulating then dear, I need you at home...

Cue eye rolling, tutting and much muttering of I only agreed to this if you were going to be chilled out about it....

We had been together for nearly 13 years when ds1 was born, married for 6 of them. In the early days we decided we'd try for a baby when both of us got broody at the same time. And wait if only one of us was. I fell pregnant quickly, so the plan worked for us. Ds1 is 7, and dh and I have been together for over 20 years now. He's 40, I'm 38 and pregnant with ds3.

We talked about wanting kids very early in our relationship, but then took a very long time to get round to putting away the condoms and thinking about having a baby. Met February 1998, moved into our own house and both started new jobs all in November 1998, stopped using contraception c October 2005, realised I was pregnant in September 2006, (from end July/early August), baby due April, born May this year. I'd begun to worry about whether I would get pregnant, and wish it had just happened earlier, it seemed hard to make the leap to that conscious decision.

We got together in august 1999, got engaged that october (6 weeks)we discussed children before we got engaged/married. Althrough neither of us wanted children before we got married.

Got married in sept 2001, moved to a bigger house feb 2002. Started ttc in feb 2002 but it took 18mths to succeed.

I also think that your age is part of it, i was 32 (dh 31) when we started ttc so was 34 when i had dd am now 37 and pg again.

We decided to start a family when we were aboiut 26. Finally has DD at 29yo.

Well i fell pregnant after being with dh for 5 months we married when dd was 11 months and now i'm expecting dd2.

I was scared I'd left it too late, as I was 36 when we started deliberately trying, and was 37 when I got pregnant and when baby was born (will be 38 at the end of this month).

Had been together about 8 years, married for 6 when we decided to start trying. We both wanted to have a family..in fact, dh would have started earlier, it was me putting the brakes on. We had discussed it before we were married though, if he hadn't wanted children I wouldn't have married him!

3 months after we met, I was pg and it was planned LOL! We started trying when we got enaged- I have no idea what led to that (with my previous XP we were waiting until we were amrried, something that I cancelled) but with DH it seemed right.

Now, if my kids told me the same story (that someone they ahd met 3 months ago, moved in with after 6 weeks and got enaged to a few weeks after that was ttc with them) i'd think oh no! Disaster! - but hey its working I think. Have 3, been ttc no 4 without success, and amrried now over 7 years

When I got pregnant! (Cried for a week...)

We had been together for 6 years, married for two of those. I really really really wanted a baby, and managed to convince DH with his head not his heart - mainly by pointing out how old we'd be when baby left home if we waited as long as he wanted. He was supportive during pregnancy, made all the right noises, but didn't really get into it all until DS was about 2 weeks old. Then he just fell in love with him, and now can't be parted from him - really soppy really - but in a great way. Now ttc again, and DH is planning to read to bump, get excited etc, all the emotional stuff he missed last time. Persevere!

My dh had not long left his wife when we met and was still married. So my dad was mortified!

We always knew we both wanted children, but didn't start ttc until we'd been together 6 ywars, married nearly 4. We conceived ds 5 months and 1 mc later.

years

Well we never actually decided....just conceived unexpectedly after being told that children unlikely (have PCOS).Now have 2 of the best accidents ever.