So I have a dilemma. My friends partner (of 5 years) is going to ask her to marry him at Xmas. I saw him afew days ago he told me he'd ordered the ring and was very excited to tell me but said I must keep the secret. He's a lovely man who is very good to my friend.
They live together have 2 children but shes always said she doesn't want to get married - not just to him, to anyone after bad experiences before and that if she had a spare £10k she would have a conservatory as a play area for the kids rather than entertain her relatives to get "a piece of paper". Her youngest child is only 2 months old and she's had bad PND and he's been amazing but I think this might send her over the edge.
I know they've discussed this before as she's told me neither of them are bothered but now I'm worried it will spoil their Christmas.
What would people do?????
Leave it
Forewarn her
Forewarn him