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Need advise from military wives

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ZebraMammy17 · 20/09/2018 14:49

So my amazing OH and father of DD has been offered a job as an electrician at an army base in Afghanistan. I'm really conflicted. He works with a man who used to do the job as has been told how good the money is and how safe it is, e.g flown straight to the army site no travel from airport to site they have an air field on base, he never leaves the vase and he said he never experienced any dangerous situation. I guess my question is what's it like being the partner of a deployed military personal. I know it's different because of the job but there still just be risk and how it affects your family. Be and OH have done long distance and thrived but it's different now that we have DD. Also I know it's morbid but my OH ones the house and were not married it's just became real that if anything happened to him that I'm vunrable.
Sorry for the long post there's just so much to consider x

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TheSageofOnions · 20/09/2018 17:24

The honest answer is that you should get married. That way if (God forbid) anything should happen to him, you and DD are protected. No one can challenge that.

Laureline · 20/09/2018 17:49

Get married - this would be a dealbreaker for me, if he’s off to Afghanistan.
It can be a small quick ceremony, no need to go for a big bash.

TatianaLarina · 20/09/2018 18:16

You should get married anyway as you had no legal protection regardless of where he works.

sunshine789 · 21/09/2018 11:20

yeah, its super safe there! why dont you go all together then?

sorry for being sarcastic, its just my H is ex military and still have ideas to go to conflict zones.

for whatever reason you are not married, you dont have to. he can write a will stating that you and baby will get everything and he should have a life insurance where you will be a beneficiary.

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