How to rise above it

[Racmactac]

So split with ex last December but had period of time where we thought we could sort it but by April realised it wasn't going to work.

We live in a small town where everyone knows everyone. He is being a complete and utter nightmare, texting me stupid messages when he is drunk, accusing me of shagging everyone, fell out with his mate because he is convinced we are sleeping together, slagging me off to anyone that will listen, approached my friends to tell them the truth if he sees them, he has put nasty stuff on fb, accused me of stealing

I am not reacting to it, I have blocked him and friends are not engaging with him.

But I really want to scream and shout at him and ask him what he is playing at. I want to seek revenge and tell other people that he is an idiot.

Please tell me I'm doing the right thing by doing nothing. And how do I not react,

You know you are doing the right thing. You cannot reason with the unreasonable. Keep strong.

sounds like you are doing right by keeping strong.

He obviously wants you to react. Thats should be enough fuel to keep you going with it, dont left this immature teenager have his own way!

Do not let his stupidity define you - stay classy and people will see through it.

If anyone asks you about it, just be dismissive with “yes, it’s very sad how he’s behaving but I’ve moved on”

Yes I don't want to get into slagging him off to people. That makes me as bad as him.

I still want to scream and shout years down the line....I know my exH has made awful lies up about me to make him look hard-done by. They win if you stoop to their level. Keep ignoring. Remember, the people who matter don't mind and the people who mind don't matter; true friends know you for you and will ignore.