Been dating someone for a month. We’ve kissed but that’s it (I don’t want to go further at this point). He’s not pushy at all in that way. Important factor: a few months ago I came out of quite an emotionally abusive relationship where I felt controlled and put down and felt obliged to send photos etc to keep him happy - he never outwardly said that but just generally the relationship was horrible like that and I constantly felt under pressure. I’ve since realised how damaging he was and now on high alert for anyone else with those traits!
So this new man... on a couple of occasions he has asked me to send him a photo. I asked him to clarify what he meant. He said a photo of me, to see my smile etc. I said I felt uncomfortable, he said sorry. A few days later i sent him a photo unprompted - just a casual smiling one before I went out for the night. He’s since asked for another more recently.
I feel uncomfortable with him asking! I’ve onviouslt fuelled it by sending a photo - but I’m not against sending pics, I just don’t like being asked.
Am I being unfair here? Do people ask for pics? Has my previous relationship impacted my views too much?
He’s lovely and he definitely can sense something is wrong but I just don’t know whether to bring it up!