Bit of background. Me and DH have been married 5 years this year. We have two DC and I'm a SAHM. I was recently diagnosed with a life changing illness (not life threatening but can cause disability). We are both under a lot of stress. He's always stressed with work and money, I'm always stressed with kids behavior and health problems. We never spend time together, we never talk about it. Sex life is non existent. I feel like I'm just surviving and not living and I'm not sure what to do?
I love DH. He doesn't treat me bad but he doesn't treat me great either. It's like I'm not here and to be honest I've actively stopped making the effort to try.
If we were to split up he would have no where to go. His closest relative is 50 minutes away by train (too far from work). Plus I don't think he would leave.
Where do I go from here? I've tried the talking it through. It doesn't work or I get the "we'll work on it" then nothing happens. I want to break the cycle.