Slept with someone different on our 2nd date and now together, it's not even relevant to bring it up is it?

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Basically what the title says.

Spoke to someone online went on 2 dates then had a ONS with someone else it meant nothing and then after that I got involved with the person I went on the dates with.

Nope.

I wouldn't bother. It's really not any of the person's business.

If you weren't exclusive with anyone at the time of the ONS, you don't owe anyone an explanation.

No

Nope. Isn't anyone's business

It’s none of his business, why do you think you need to bring it up? If it was his friend or his family member then I probably would say something now before it becomes a secret the two of you are keeping from him, but if it’s a total stranger you’ll never see again then I wouldn’t bother

Go with how you’d want/expect to be informed yourself.

If he’d done similar (and you found out somehow later) would you expect him to have told you? Whatever the answer is should be what guides you here.

(But I wouldn’t expect someone to tell me about this unless maybe the ONS turns out to have been with my brother or someone really close to me - and that would just be as fair warning)

I would want to know to be honest. I don't really like the whole dating other people while dating someone else, and sleeping with someone while dating me would be a deal breaker. It depends on you though, if it wouldn't bother you if he had slept with someone else, then maybe it won't be a problem. If he found out from someone else though, he could just assume you cheated on him even though you weren't exclusive, but cheaters tend to lie so why would he believe you? I'd probably tell him just so everything is on the table and he can decide if he wants to continue. He may not be bothered either but what if he is? He'll feel a bit cheated on then and like he's wasted his time.

@Santaclarita it's a second date. You wouldn't even know the person by that time. You (general you) have no obligation to tell a stranger about your sex life after only meeting them twice in your life.

nah, not relevant, you did nothing wrong, what's the point in telling him?

I would probably tell him, but only because its not a big deal. I would expect someone to shrug their shoulders at this really.

Do you think that he would have a bad reaction to this, and if so what does that say about him?

A friend's ex did this after just the odd together, and only told her about 6 months in. We couldn't for the life of us work out why he felt the need to do so, and actually it was one of the things that put us all of him - including her! I mean, just, why??

Don't tell him. Put it waaaaay behind you.

The odd DATE together, whoops!

No particular need to bring it up out of the blue, but obviously if the subject does come up for any reason, you still should be honest.

If your partner never gives any impression they'd be interested in or care about it, then you leave it be. If you have strong reasons to believe they'd want to know, then the decent thing to do is tell them.

No it is not relevant .