Am I being completely unreasonable?

[Wheresmyshittingmeat]

Dp has just returned from visiting his dd for two weeks. He arrived home and a few minutes later showed me a tattoo he had done on his arm. He knows I hate them and he had one done on his other arm a few years ago. I felt really upset and pissed off as he knows I hate them and I would have liked him to at least warn me and discuss with me in advance. It's a really naff one and I'm ashamed to say I find it embarrassing..

Now I totally get that it's his body and he can do what he likes and that I can't really complain but I bloody hate it.

Do I need to get over myself?

My OH has a dinosaur holding a balloon on his leg. Also a slice of pizza. I hate them so much, I'd rather he didn't have them. However, it's not my decision and I simply have to find light in them.

At the end of the day, he's a fantastic man - that's what's important and I remind myself of that (every time he wears shorts)

Thanks Sir I know you're right. I just wish he had let me know.

I have nothing against tattoos, I love them - but I've had a few disputes with OH about ridiculous tattoos that he wants to get that I'm also ashamed to say I'd be embarrassed by so I understand where you're coming from with it.

A little bit unreasonable. In the grand scheme of things, it really doesn't affect you, although I appreciate it was probably a shock!

Thanks. I know I don't have any say in it. We do have other problems so I think this is why I'm so pissed off. I don't know why I hate them so much! None of my friends or family have them which doesn't help.

I think I'd feel like you - yes, it's absolutely his body and his right to do whatever to it, but equally if he knows you hate them plus the tattoo itself is embarrassing then yes, I'd be a bit hacked off. But there's nothing you can do - it's a done deal. Just buy him some nice long sleeved shirts and burn all his T shirts.

Just buy him some long sleeved shirts and burn his tshirts

this

I hid my OH shorts for the first few times he met my parents. It was summer. I have no regrets.

Get one yourself :
'My dh is a knob'

I’m afraid you are going to have to get over it, you are being unreasonable as it’s his body. It does seem a bit sneaky though that he’s done it while he’s been away and can just present you with a fait accompli!

Nope it's his body.
Unless he's spent a lot of money that you felt he should have discussed it first?

YABU. It's his body and he's a grown man.

Yeah yabu

Ha to Hassled and Aprilshowers! Point taken though and I need to get over it. He said he knew I would hate it so just went ahead without saying anything. Fair enough I suppose.

I think this is the sort of thing I think I'd want to discuss with my partner first . I don't think your being unreasonable