How do I deal with people disliking me for no reason?

[rareflowergirl]

Some people I meet especially girls dislike me for no reason. I got a part-time job and this girl (my co-worker) I met a few weeks ago was making fun of the way I speak to a guy after just a second (literally) of me walking away from them.

Felt really hurt and broken. This girl was so nice to my face though. I got the feeling from her on more than one occasion she doesn't like me.

Fuck em all. Who is she anyway? You should have turned right back round and asked her if she has something to say to you, look her square in the eye when you do it. She would crap herself I imagine.

It's called jealousy. ignore it.

She'll have a reason for disliking you, whether you think that reason is rational or not is another matter.

How did you speak to the guy?

Are you very attractive? Sometimes it is just that tbh

I ignore them frankly.

Someone who makes fun of others is not the kind of person I would bother wasting my time on.

Maybe she's just a bit strange.

@Bombardier25966 She was making fun of my Indian accent.

A total dickhead then and a racist. You don’t want to know her disgusting woman.

Hopefully her boss will catch her being racist and tear a strip or two off her!
Ignore her for now. She's not worth the energy.

I’m autistic and I’ve learnt that no matter how friendly I think I’m being people almost always think I’m a twat. I used to micro analyse every conversation and interaction to see if I could determine exactly when people decided I was weird. I still do to an extent. But I try to not let it bother me. I have family and friends who seem to like me as I am.

OP that's vile of her. I know easier said than done, but try not to let it get you down. You wouldn't want to be friends with arseholes like that anyway.

I might also talk to your immediate supervisor about hearing her ridicule your accent. No one can ignore that sort of behaviour in this day and age.

To quote the great Samantha Jones "if I cared what every bitch in New York was saying about me, I'd never leave the house" 😎 If someone has a problem for no reason they're obviously weird, try and let it wash over you!

Sadly we don't gel with everybody we meet. I'd try and frame it differently though; be thankful you already know she's nasty and not to invest/waste any time on her. Try and focus on what makes you happy not what she likes or dislikes. She sounds like a bully, you're better off without her.

Read the book 'The courage to be disliked'.

It says if people dislike you, you are probably being authentic to yourself.

I realised in my 30s (yes, took that long!) that not everyone is going to like me. Unfortunate, as I, pretty much, like everyone initially until I get to know them.
Now I accept that not everyone will like me. I feel quite indifferent about them.

As for the her mocking your accent, it is, indeed, racism. Report her or call her on it.