I have always had a difficult relationship with my sister. She's 5 years older and has always tried to boss me about and manipulate me. In the past when I have stuck up for myself she's gone absolutely mental. She completely over reacts to the slightest thing. In the past when I've questioned something she's done just in general conversation she's taken it completely the wrong way and gone mad making something that was just a question into a huge row.
She's so sarcastic with everything she says to me. She will be over the top nice being fake and say something like that's a nice top when I'm wearing something really old just to make people look at what I'm wearing.
Her husband has started now aswel and the last couple of times we've gone for family meals every time I've spoken he's tried to make me look stupid.
They do it in such a way that if I ever said anything they would say they were being nice/having a laugh. The latest thing was this weekend, it was a family occasion and I had bought a gift for my parents which had gotten left at my ds house. She bought it along and made a point of telling my husband that they had chucked it on the floor in the car and it had been rolling round everywhere. Ds then made a big song and dance in front of everyone saying ooh look what lunas bought you better open it now because Luna has bought that. Bil then starts telling my dh that what I've bought is shit and he hates it. I didn't hear this and dh didn't want to ruin the occasion by telling me there so I found out later.
This was at the end of a day full of snide remarks and little digs all done really slyly. I honestly don't know what I have done to her. She has been like this forever. I'm done with her now, we will never get on. I feel like there has always been something with her where for whatever reason she doesn't like me.
In the past we have fallen out and not spoken for a period of time but this was years ago and was over her behaviour and how she treats people. I don't think she ever got over this and I think she holds a massive grudge still even though she acts like she doesn't care. If this was the only thing I would put it down to this but she has been like this since childhood. How would other people deal with this?