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How to tell if a woman likes you?

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windsunandabitofrain · 18/09/2018 13:15

I'm pretty new at this finding women attracted and there's one woman I like but I'm unsure if she likes me or just being friendly.
When we talk she's very smiley and we have eye contact.
She was asking what kind of things I enjoy and invited me to a party (when we didn't really know each other)
I said I had always wanted to go to a festival and she sent me a few messages saying she was going to a particular one and I should go and we exchanged a few messages.
Then she invited me to a weekend away with my friend(our mutual friend ) and another woman.
Another occasion there was 3 of us Sharing a hotel room and we were kind of messing around and she was pulling the quilt of me (sounds odd but I felt chemistry )

Is she wanting me as a friend ? Or could she be attracted ?

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windsunandabitofrain · 18/09/2018 16:12

Anybody ?

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noego · 18/09/2018 16:16

There is enough there for you to ask her for a 1-2-1 coffee, lunch or dinner and see if the chemistry is mutual.

ovendoor · 18/09/2018 16:31

Ask her out for lunch and see how you get on. Sounds promising!

Whatsallthisaboutthen · 18/09/2018 16:35

If you know she’s gay, I’d just ask her out. If you don’t know, I’d find that out first 😉

Musti · 18/09/2018 16:41

Oh I thought you were a man. I'd do what you describe to a woman and I'm straight. I'm very friendly and include and invite people all the time.

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windsunandabitofrain · 18/09/2018 16:45

I'm a woman and she's gay.
I just don't have a clue how to tell if she likes me or not Blush

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windsunandabitofrain · 18/09/2018 16:51

Any gay women on here who could shed some light?

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sourpatchkid · 18/09/2018 16:58

If you felt chemistry it was probably there. I think she sounds like she likes you.

Meandyoumake2 · 18/09/2018 17:00

I'm gay and I also have gay friends who I have the same type of friendship as you're describing (a di do with straight friends? I think you'll need a bit more time to suss it out! Is she seeing anyone or anything?

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windsunandabitofrain · 18/09/2018 17:02

I think that's where I'm finding it confusing.
I find it so much easier to work out if a man likes me.
I did catch her looking at me and she turned away quick (but I'm a people watcher too)

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Racecardriver · 18/09/2018 17:07

Thru giver a secret signal. First they sort of tap on their cheeks then spread one hand behind their head and go heehaw!

Not actually though. I have no idea. I would imagine it's different for everyone. You'll just have to ask her on a date. If she says yes then she does. If she says no then she doesn't.

sourpatchkid · 18/09/2018 17:12

You could ask her what her type is and how she indicates she's attracted to someone as you're not great at reading cues and want advice? I reckon that'll pretty much give you your answer

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windsunandabitofrain · 18/09/2018 17:24

Well I've been doing some investigating (scrolling through Facebook )
Her ex was brunette and very girly and slim
I'm brunette and girly and similar build but as for personality I'm not sure.
She did ask me what type of person I am and things I enjoy and I told her I like to live in the moment and be adventurous and she said she was too.

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lynmilne65 · 18/09/2018 17:35

Racecar Grin

Isitovernow · 18/09/2018 18:18

Go for it! Sounds like she digs you!

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windsunandabitofrain · 18/09/2018 19:06

I guess I have nothing to loose
Fingers crossed

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altiara · 18/09/2018 19:11

Definitely attracted to you! Looking forward to the update!

MrsRubyMonday · 18/09/2018 19:13

@Racecar I love the signal, we used to do it in uni all the time 😂

OP, it's a known fact that WLW are terrible at telling if another woman likes them or like likes them. It's just a thing. Women tend to be more naturally affectionate and into casual touch so it can be hard to interpret. I've seen posts on other sites from women who have had their live interest sat on their lap on a night out, kissing their cheek, holding hands, and still had to ask. Turns out the love interest thought they were already on a date.

If you're interested, ask her out. And if you're still not sure if it's friends or romantic, specifically ask her on a date. She will either say yes, or politely explain she isn't interested. Neither is inherently bad.

I'm so glad I met my wife online. No confusion, so much easier!

Meandyoumake2 · 18/09/2018 19:15

Why not suggest a few drinks ? See how that goes - if it's just the two of you should hopefully be easy to gauge ! Good luck ! 👍🏻

Lovingeachday · 18/09/2018 19:15

Just bite the bullet and ask .

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windsunandabitofrain · 18/09/2018 20:19

Thanks
I hope she likes me otherwise I'm gonna like stupid ha ha

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Meandyoumake2 · 18/09/2018 21:45

Aw you won't good luck - keep us updated!

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windsunandabitofrain · 19/09/2018 11:33

Think it's going to be an occasion when we are both very drunk.

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Meandyoumake2 · 19/09/2018 14:20

Haha what age are you? Send her a message ask her for drinks after work Friday!

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windsunandabitofrain · 19/09/2018 14:49

I'm 33 and she is 36

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