Why do some men do this?

[GraceMarks]

I was on Tinder a while back, and I matched with a man on there who seemed really nice, respectful, intelligent etc. We exchanged a few messages, then he said that he was probably going to delete Tinder but that we could add each other on Facebook and carry on messaging there.

So I did. But clearly the whole thing is just a big ego trip for him, because practically all his friends are women who he has met online and he's constantly posting pictures of himself in various states of undress with faux self-deprecating comments underneath about how hideous he looks (they're obviously not selfies so I do wonder who's taking these pictures, but anyway...). He then gets a flood of supportive comments from all his admirers, mostly with the word "hun" in there somewhere. I refuse to join in.

We haven't messaged since going off Tinder - although he's still on there - but he still likes everything I post, even when liking isn't an especially appropriate response. He also posted something the other day about how there are no genuine women and why doesn't anyone want a relationship any more... I don't think there's a lot of self-awareness there.

Clearly he's a dick and I will be unfriending him soon, but why apparently this is something people do on OLD, both men and women. Why the hell would you put yourself out there claiming to be interested in a relationship and then just use OLD to build up an online fan club? Is it down to insecurity or are these people just looking for a big ego boost, like "look at all these women I could go on dates with if I wanted to"?

That's never happened to me.
I would not add anyone on facebook until I'd had a good few dates.
You can whatsapp etc.... but they don't get my number and certainly don't get access to my facebook until we've met.
Put this rule in place for yourself.
And unfriend him today.
He's sounds like a total knob-head!

I’d probably keep him for amusement value unless it became irritating in which case vamoosh.

I had a tinder guy add me to Facebook who went cold on talking after about five weeks. Every five weeks or so he would friend another 40 something blonde woman 😂
Binned him in the end because he was the most boring man alive.

That's never ha attended to me either. But also I never add people on Facebook who I don't know so I always find it weird when people do. Genuine question, why would you add someone you don't know? And I assume he does that to avoid giving his number out maybe? But yes he sounds a bit odd.

Not sure what your AIBU is?

I find it odd that you took him up on the suggestion of adding him to your FB tbh.

tsonlyme I did keep him around for amusement value for a while but yeah, it's become irritating now. I hate compliment-fishing, especially when you can tell that the person doesn't really think they're a hideous freak.

onemansoapopera botanicbaby there is no AIBU, hence why I posted in Relationships and not AIBU. I was merely wondering if anyone else had experienced this and what people thought the reasons were.

As to why I would add someone on FB that I didn't really know, I don't actually use FB that much, and when I do it's purely for daft social stuff. I never post details of my job, my family or anything important, and I don't show my date of birth or details of past schools and employers. There is nothing on there that I'm concerned about people seeing and I don't have any other social media like Whatsapp or Kikk.

Anyway, I've unfriended him now.

I didnt mention AIBU , just for the record 😊