Maybe I am just being paranoid.

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I just feel as if DH has lost interest in not only me but DS too.

It just seems that he doesn’t want to be here anymore, I have spoken to a friend in RL and they say I am being paranoid, he has been unfaithful in the past which he confessed about.

I just don’t know....

Trust your instincts. You already know you certainly can't trust HIM.

I'd go with your gut. Given his past record, you're hardly being paranoid to fear that his attention may be directed elsewhere.

Thank you, it’s not a nice feeling when someone tells you that you’re being paranoid.

I just can’t cope with him being like this, I haven’t done anything wrong or anything to upset him. I just want him to go.

I don't have personal experience but after supporting others I would say that gut instinct is rarely wrong. At the very least, he's not working with you to create a happy marriage. We can't feel someone has lost interest in our life unless they are asking questions about our life less, doing less with us etc. So something must be up even if not the worst case.

I'm another who says go with your gut. He's cheated on you before. You know what it feels like.

Sorry this is happening to you.

Agree with PP to trust your instinct. It now comes down to how you want to handle this. Do you have any evidence of cheating? Are you planning to find out?
With you saying you just want him gone it sounds like you have had enough of him also?

pizzatime3857

Yes, I have had enough of him.. this is not the first time this has happened (him behaving like this) he is not only doing it to me, he is doing it to our son also.

This morning when I took him to school he said that he would really like if dad could collect him; when I got back to the house he wasn’t home, I texted him to ask him if he could and he said that he is busy.

I do not have no evidence of him cheating and I don’t think I will ever find any, he confessed about cheating last time because he supposedly felt “gulity”

Sorry to hear that OP especially the disregard towards your DS. Do you think he has any idea you feel this way?

pizzatime3857 - Probably not, I am going to send him a text to tell him how I feel, even though he is in the house.

The whole situation is just making me feel so down, if he is upset about something he knows he can always come to me and speak about it.

Why text him if he's in the house with you? Just go and talk to him ffs.... You will be able to tell alot by how he reacts and if you already know the signs then you will have your answer.

Big girl pants on and tackle head on!!

BeenThereDone - Didn’t you read my OP? It seems like he doesn’t want to be here anymore, so we aren’t having much talking communication, when someone sends you a text you read it, and once he reads it hopefully he will get some understanding of how I feel.

In future please think before you type because your comment was patronising, rude and very unhelpful, especially the “ffs” bit.

I have been on this site a while and a lot of ladies here do suggest to write a letter or send an email.

I will never take advice from someone who uses the term “big girl pants” it’s cringe.

You’re right to think it’s the end if you can’t even open a conversation with him.

Best of luck for the future

You’re right about one thing it’s over, if you can’t talk to him and need to send a text when you’re living under the same roof. Speaking to friends, posting on here about your relationship but the only person you’re not talking to about your feelings is your husband. I feel sorry for your son, the atmosphere must be bloody awful.

OP I totally get that feeling of not being able to talk to your dh. If he won't engage in a conversation or if he denies or twists everything you say then it can be next to impossible to get everything you want to say said. And sometimes it's not even him. #I# find it hard to say things that someone else is not going to want to hear.
Write that text. Get it all out there. Good luck

I understand the desire to send a text rather than talk. If he’s gaslighting you, or shooting you down every time you speak, and refusing to communicate then what’s the point in talking to him? At least via text you can say what you want to say without him telling you you’re being silly, or irrational.

Thank you for understanding why I wanted to send a text, I sent it and he come down to speak to me.

He said that he just doesn’t feel right in himself at the moment and he is sorry if he has caused any upset towards me and DS.

We are going to go to the doctors this morning together (if I can get an appointment)

I’m more sad that he didn’t feel as if he could come and speak to me.

Glad to hear you talked last night. Hope you managed to get a doctors appointment

pizzatime3857 - Thank you so much for your help, you’ve been great.

Yes we managed to get a doctors appointment for this afternoon.

Hope it goes well and you get some idea of what's going on with your dh

I’m more sad that he didn’t feel as if he could come and speak to me.

But you couldn't go and talk to him either? I think you could both do with some couples counselling and learn how to actually speak to each other.

Hope the GP appointment helped.

No problem really glad I have helped. Hope the doctors appointment went well so that you and DH can start to go in the right direction now

How did you get on op?