I am in a very new relationship, we have only been together 6 weeks. This weekend we disagreed over something and she broke up with me (lesbian relationship). We have chatted since and have agreed to meet up next weekend to discuss what happened in the hope of continuing the relationship. It seems that neither of us can really fathom the other's perspective and I thought it might be useful to ask for advice in understanding her perspective in advance of meeting up, to help the meeting go more smoothly and increase the chances of us getting back together 
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Ok so, we have known each other casually for little over a year, as we have a shared friend group. We have been together for 6 weeks and have seen each other every weekend for those 6 weeks. On Thursday she told me that she would prefer us to see each other every second weekend so she has time for the other people in her life. I felt slightly hurt but it does make sense for me also as I have children and struggle to find time to fit everything in.
When I found out that I wouldn't be spending the weekend with her I contacted my friends to see about seeing them on Saturday night and going dancing. They told me that they were going for a drink in a friends place as it was her birthday then going out dancing. I said great, am feeling a bit ill, working until 6 and maybe having a coffee with my neighbour but will try to come up later.
My gf had mentioned several things about that weekend before I knew we weren't seeing each other. One of them had been going for a drink for this mutual friend's birthday, but other things also. But overall I got the impression that she was wrecked from work and being sick all week and wanted to do nothing and sleep alot for the weekend.
On Saturday I messaged my gf and asked if she would be going to this friends birthday drinks. I said I was working, then meeting my neighbour, and I might come out for a bit later but I might not as I'll be wrecked.
She got really quite angry with me, which took me by surprise. Then broke up with me. Said she didn't think it was just a coincidence that I was going out when she was. I said that if I am not spending the night with her then I have to either meet my friends or just stay home alone for the night, that I can't help that we have the same friend circle, and that I didn't feel it would be likely that she would even see me that night as despite us having the same friend group we next to never bumped into one another as I tend to turn up late and go clubbing with them and she tends to leave early and dislikes the gay club.
Anyway, this is what happened. She said that I don't understand the depth of what I have done. And the thing is I don't. So I am asking for help in seeing it in advance of meeting up with her to see if we can get past this.
Thanks for any advice!