Found his POF account

[Bankgirl1]

OH behaving out of character last few weeks. Starting arguements out of nothing. Went searching. Have checked his phone found his pof account he has set up looking for no strings hook ups . His history on internet searches shows flirt.com and similar sites and his browser window was open on a porn site. Do i tell him i know ??

Do you have DC together?

Are you married? What's your housing situation? Take screen shots in case he deletes it all and denies.

If you don't tell him, what is the alternative? You muddle along pretending he isn't cheating on you?

He will claim that he was just curious. Set up a fake profile, (or get a friend to) use fake pics (or no pics) and see how he responds. This thread is evidence that backs up the sequence of events from your perspective.

The reason why we asking whether you have kids & mortgage is because sometimes the wife is in a vulnerable position (finance wise) so it’s wiser to get your ducks in a row first and prepare an exit strategy.
If you don’t have dependents then just LTB when you want.

Not yet. Get your shit organised for leaving/him leaving first. Don't be vulnerable in this situation. Give yourself time. Also, don't shag him.

Thanks ladies. Thats my reason for asking as there are dc involved. I have caught him previously years before the dc as he used to use my laptop and hadnt covered his tracks as well as he thought. Spent months apart sorting it and 10 years on here again out but then finding this makes me wonder as he has upgraded from a prevous phone so only know this phones history.
Also he stays away for work / has clients meetings that are shortish distances from home yet generally always in late 6/7pm after a 12pm meeting blaming traffic / avoiding traffic. So plenty opportunity as pof people are doing the same thing.
Also tends to cause stupid arguements when due to be away so he then doesnt call home..

Have pics . We are not married its his house .

So you know what to do then OP, get rid, he's never stopped cheating on you and is no doubt meeting up for sex with strangers; time to move on, he won't change. Imagine how many other folk have seen him on POF, he has zero respect for himself, and you.

OK, his house and being not married means you're in a bit of vulnerable position, financially.

Can you get copies of bank statements/wages etc?

All the banking and wages are online. Dont have access to them.
Just worried about the dc. Not sure which approach i want to take yet.

Sorry OP he's been cheating. Definitely get yourself in the strongest position you can financially etc