If you married your long term partner what was it like in the immediate days and weeks after?

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Just that really, did you just fall back in to your routine life like nothing had changed?
Did it rekindle the romance for a while like a ‘honeymoon period’ as such?
Did you feel different? About them? About yourself?

To be honest nothing much changed for us (but it was already good). We had a lovely honeymoon and then life continued. I know my SIL felt down for months after the big wedding build up and then no miraculous change (and I've heard this from others). We had quite a small wedding and were both just really happy to be married. Ultimately you are exactly the same people in exactly the same relationship

Together 10 years now married 3 months. Nothing much has changed except DH appears to be more committed, somehow. He's less worried about telling me what he really thinks and is more confident in 'us'.

Not sure what to make of it, yet!!

We were together 21 years, very happily, before we married. We did it in jeans at lunchtime with two witnesses at a particularly busy time for both of us, where we were both abroad a lot for work. (Practical reason to do it.) I don’t think either of us gave it another thought. I don’t think we even told anyone for months, and neither of us remembers our wedding anniversary six years on. Things are just as happy.

Nothing changed. We just continued with our lives as they were!

We were together 6 years when we got married, only had a small honeymoon as we didn’t want to leave our DD for too long.

Things went pretty much back to normal straight away, however, after a couple of months I would say the first year of our marriage was probably the most difficult in our whole relationship and I put this down to us both letting our guards down completely and being completely vulnerable and open to the other person - not that we were closed books, but my DH definitely let himself become more vulnerable and open to emotions and this meant I was more vulnerable emotionally by default - it’s made our relationship much stronger now though.

It was crap. Went to bed on my own every night including wedding night. No affection or love. Split up before the first anniversary. Being married highlighted what a non-relationship it was.

We were together 6.5 years when we got married. i love being married but we were under no illusions it would change anything with 'us' and it didn't.....which I love! It's really just a lovely amazing day and a piece of paper and makes it all seem a little more 'set'.

Not me but a close friend. Married after 17 years. He'd had an affair about 10 years in. They split up but reconciled and she pushed hard to get married. He wasn't bothered either way and eventually did it to make her happy. Within a year he started an affair with someone he'd met at work just after the wedding. He left my friend for the OW. He married her as soon as he was divorced and they are still together and seem very happy.

Basically he and my friend were in a crap relationship and marriage did nothing to change that.

Thanks for all the replies, a mix of experiences I see.
I’ve been married two weeks and just trying to gauge if things are normal or not for us.
I can’t really explain how I feel, some days I forget we even got married and others it feels like a nice dream I had.
We have three DCs so of course it’s very quickly back to reality when kids are involved. Just feel a bit sad I suppose that there’s no rekindling of the romantic stage, even for just a little while! Feels like it never happened.

Meant to say been together 12 years.

We didn’t live together before we got married so ours changed - it was so lovely being together every night

I felt more secure but life was really just the same.

Another daily fail thread.

We were together 9 years before wedding day and few months leading up and about 6 monthd after i felt husband was more attentive and it felt different, its been 5 years since wedding day and not so much now but we have 19 month old so life has changed in general but look back on our wedding fondly

Together nine years before getting married earlier this year - life after the wedding is no different to life before the wedding.

Thinkingofausername have they really picked this up? It’s not a very interesting subject! Or are you my first Journo accusation?

We eloped/married 31/7, just the 2 of us. I do have to remind myself that we did actually marry...life has just continued as it was before, nothing has changed...but then I think that's exactly how it should be.

No change for us, just carried on as normal after a nice day out 😀
Been together 10 years, before we got married about 6 months ago. Pretty much given up on DH proposing. He says he ran out of things to talk about

If pushed, I would say the relationship feels more secure, even though we had Wills I had always worried about what might happen if anything happened to DH.

We stayed in bed for 24 hours. Then back to normal.

@MauveSofa

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