Booking double room

[Ribrabrob]

Very early days into seeing someone, literally a few dates with a kiss at the end, haven't seen each other's houses, been inside etc (although we see each other at work). Both love travelling/flying and spur of the moment decided to go away in a few days time and I need to book the hotel or place to stay. Thing is, I'm really worried about booking a double room - do I look too presumptuous?! But will it look even weirder if I book single beds?

I have no issues sleeping in the same bed as him and would like to share a room but not entirely sure if I'm ready for sex so a bit confused as to what to do!

Any advice please?

Just book the double room.

If you are not sure you want to have sex, book two rooms. I would assume sharing a room would mean sex if someone I didn't really know booked it.

What happens if he turns out to be a twat when drunk? What happens if he does or says something that turns you off him. There'd be nowhere to escape to.

Or you could actually discuss it first like an adult?

I'd strongly suggest asking him, rather than us. That's the only way you can see what both of you have in mind in the way of expectations. Be absolutely upfront with him and say exactly what you've just said to us: "I have no issues sleeping in the same bed as him and would like to share a room but not entirely sure if I'm ready for sex so a bit confused as to what to do!" See what he says.

(FWIW, having - in my younger years - dated a few Christians who weren't into sex before marriage, if a potential partner said to me "not sure I'm ready for sex yet" I'd say "fine - separate rooms then, so we don't get carried away on the spur of the moment with something you're not happy with - and if you change your mind, well, I'm just next door and more than happy to entertain visitors." If he's a decent bloke he'll want to know you're having sex with him because you have taken the decision that you want to, not because you had one glass of wine too many at dinner and both of you happen to be in the same bed.)

Are you sure you're doing the right thing here? It's a bit full-on when you don't know each other that well. What if you really don't like him in bed?

Eh book a double room but explain you aren't ready for sex. If he's worth it, he won't mind. I did this with my partner, our first weekend away together was literally our first weekend together. Told him I didn't want sex, he was fine with it.

I think if you’re ready to go away together, it implies you’re both feeling ready to share a bed. But sharing a bed does NOT imply you want to have sex. My dh and I stayed over at each other’s places pretty much every night from when we first started dating, but we didn’t have sex until a month after despite sharing a bed. I would just be upfront that you aren’t sure you’re ready yet for sex, but you are looking forward to time together. You may very well decide it is what you want after all. But I think a joint trip with single beds screams ‘friend zone’ (also fine though if that’s what you want!).