Not over his ex or me being unreasonable?

[Anon62]

Hi,
I don't know if this is me being overly sensitive but I just can't get a grip on the situation.
Me and partner have been together for 2 years now and everything seems perfect but I can't help but feel like maybe my partner isn't over his ex. There has only been a couple of situations where actions have made me think this but my partner is planning our future of buying houses and wanting children and I need to someone's opinion on this.
A few months ago partner was showing me something on Facebook and I realised he had searched/visited his ex's page (one certain one and no other exes), I got really upset because I'm not the most confident anyway but partner just said he was just being nosey and it was nothing so I trusted him and believed that.
Last night he was on Facebook and a picture of one of his friends came up with his girlfriend (who is his ex's best friend) he scrolled through all the comments and came away from it and then later on was looking who liked the post; he was scrolling through until he seen the ex's name and then went off the photo again.
This same friend we ran into at a restaurant with his girlfriend a while back and partner went to speak to him before I'd even finished my meal and told me to stay where I was as it was just a quick chat.
Honestly I have attachment issues as it is and I trust him not to do anything but I don't want to start planning our future if he is really not over her.
Opinions please on whether he is just being a stupid man or I'm being an overly sensitive idiot.

None of that sounds funny to me. I Facebook stalk all my exes (and am friends with several of them). I’m just nosey and like to judge. I’ve happily been with my dh for 10 years and have no interest in any of them -apart from just being judgmental. I would chalk that up to being over sensitive really unless there’s more to the story than that.

Nothing more to the story at all, she's very clearly moved on as oh has told me she has kids and stuff. The old mental health makes me struggle with believing he could actually just love me and that I know I'm overly sensitive.

I think you're being over sensitive. Doesn't everyone Facebook stalk and ex at some point or another, and the reason he told you to stay put when he went to say hi to his friend was because you were still eating and he didn't want you to feel you had to leave your meal to go with him.

Not seeing it sorry.

Sorry, think you are reading too much into it. Everyone stalks their ex on Facebook surely? Mine is blocked as he is an EA SOB but ones prior to him I have looked up and I also have several as friends because we didn't end badly, just grew apart or were better as mates. In fact I am godmother to the kids of one of my exbf and his wife and are were close friends for years. We are jo longer in contact but that has nothing to do with our previous relationship (his wife was proven to be the one passing sensitive info back to my EA exh).

You are projecting your own issues onto this and twisting things. Step back and see it for what it is