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partner of a gaming addict

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HappyEverAfterr · 16/09/2018 01:41

I have no idea how to start this I've never really posted about anything in my entire life but I've gone past the point of losing my mind. I have 3 children 2 under 3 I have no friends or family really and just moved to a new area... My partner works from home he makes a decent amount when he does work he works 2-3 hours a day but the rest of his day is taken up by gaming. He wakes up works turns his game on and comes to bed at 3am every single night. I can't express how lonely I feel I cry myself to sleep every night. I've tried every approach with him i tell him how I feel I try and talk but he tells me I need to shut the f up he gets aggressive and abusive about it I feel like I'm living a nightmare I'm in groundhog day and nothing I say or do or beg changes anything. He has always liked games that's fine so do I but I miss having human contact more... We don't even have sex anymore and I've begged him! I'm not a monster I make an effort with my appearance for him and I get nothing but torture. I love this man I had children with this man when we met I knew I couldn't feel like this about anyone else he would tell me how he couldn't believe someone like me would fall in love with him and he was the luckiest man in the world and every part of me felt the same...he told me he would never take me for granted I can't explain how special it was. Relationships lose the spark eventually that's ok it's been 4 years I'm not stupid but I'm so alone he spends every free moment on his laptop, drinks every night and he's abusive. I have gone to his parents about it all in the past for some sort of help but he works in sales he could smooth talk/ lie his way out of any situation.. I'm rock bottom I have no fight left in me I know the only option is to leave I guess I'm not really asking for advice maybe just hearing from anyone else with gaming addicted partners would be nice knowing I'm not completely alone...

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Cawfee · 16/09/2018 03:49

I hear you. I’m in a similar position. It grinds you down and makes you feel worthless. It’s an addiction and there really isn’t anything you can do if he’s that far gone. Do you have finances to be able to leave? This sounds so lonely and desperate. Surely you’d be best to be on your own so you can start to get some self esteem back and stop investing all of your emotional energy into this man

KitandPup · 16/09/2018 04:30

It's a real addiction but if he's not willing to change then unfortunately the only thing to do is leave.

This will suck away at your self esteem. Leave this man child. We only get one life and it's too short to waste x

PurpleFlower1983 · 16/09/2018 07:15

Leave him. He sounds like my fucking hideous ex.

Treacletoots · 16/09/2018 08:00

I'm sorry. I actually cited 'obsessed with gaming' on my divorce petition so I know all about it.

However my exH was also incredibly lazy selfish and an asshole through and through. What is he like apart from this? Can things be salvaged? Will the realisation you could leave and take DCs be enough for him to stop his ridiculous behaviour?

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