Married for 10 years together for 12. 2 kids 5 & 7. Very up and down last 2 years of marriage, but sought marriage counselling which I arranged and worked through things. 10 year anniversary comes round. DH cancels dinner plans due to being unwell.. fair enough..but this happens every time an occassion is important to me. Had actually been hinting for two years for a weekend away no kids but it fell on deaf ears. The restaurant and babysitter were both booked by me and cancelled by me. I gave him an anniversary card and ££ chocolates. I got the same card he got me. We had said we would get a garden bench... I am working full time. He isn't working at the mo...sent him links to some 2 weeks ago.. he didn't buy one saying he was too busy. He was well enough to go to the barber and do activities with the children on special meal out day. No real apology about the cancelled plans. No flowers. Nothing. I am really hurt and I think it is thoughtless. I know things have been bumpy due to work situations, health, life with young children. We worked hard, or at least I have worked hard at getting things back on track. But this is a bit upsetting and a kick in the teeth. Am I over reacting?