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How did you get the 'heat' back after having kids?

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WhiteRosesAndSunflowers · 15/09/2018 20:12

OH and I have have two lovely little boys (both under two) and understandably, due to tiredness, early starts/night wakings etc, our sex life has taken a bit of a nose dive.
We don't get round to it anywhere near as often as we did before having kids - I'm somewhat okay about this, but I'd still like to have it a little more frequently, though I do completely get that OH is tired and tbf, I'm bloody exhausted 90% of the time too!

I was just wondering what you did to bring back the passion and fire after having children? When we do both find ourselves in the mood, the sex can be a bit 'samey'. It's good, don't get me wrong, but I sense that neither of us are left like 'woah, omg, best night of my life' kind of thing. We have to try and be quiet obviously because we don't want to wake the DCs, and one or both of us tends to be keeping an ear out in case the baby stirs or the toddler gets up - so not exactly the sorts of things you wanna be doing in the heat of the moment!

So, basically, any tips for how two totally tired parents can have an amazing sex life again?! Any suggestions for things we could try, or just general ways to spice it up after it's become a bit like routine.

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Prawnofthepatriarchy · 15/09/2018 20:42

Can you change venues? I know lots of people haven't the room, but we started shagging in the sitting room. We could hear the DC but they couldn't hear us or at least not enough to disturb them.

Another tip is what I call 'foreplay starts at breakfast', which refers to heavy flirting during the hours before you're hoping to DTD. When you have small DC you can end up seeing each other as Mummy and Daddy. You need to tilt that, reframe it. DH and I would lock eyes over the DCs innocent little heads and we'd get really turned on by the looks we shared.

Couple of thoughts.

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