I've been married for 18 years. And it's ok. I put up with more selfishness than I should, and he seems to think that if he does a basket of ironing a week and loads a dishwasher, he's 'doing his bit', but there's no abuse or anything really unpleasant.
I just can't shake the resentment. I am beyond hormonally sexually charged right now, and I could shag the postie just for turning up (I'm not btw!) but we're not having much sex because he's always out pursuing his own entertainment and being self-absorbed and by the time he gets off from playing football games on his phone, however horny I feel, I would rather sort myself out than let him touch me in the half-hearted way he does.
We never kiss - even during sex and foreplay, he just doesn't engage. I am always so far down the priority list I barely register. I've tried talking to him about some of this, and work really hard at not being over the top, or minimizing, but he just never even registers what I'm saying. He even just walked out of the room while I was midsentence explaining something about the kids schools yesterday, because he just got his phone out and became more absorbed in what he was reading than listening to what I was saying.
I'm approaching had-enough now, and I don't really know what to do.