No contact with parent - how to manage siblings?

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Have been NC with a parent since end of 2017.

Struggling to manage relationship with sibling who is defensive of said parents emotionally and physically abusive and neglectful behaviour.

How have others managed this kind of thing? Did you end up going NC with them too?

Not a sibling, but I've managed similar with cousins.

My approach has been dependent upon their attitude.

Head in the sand, "but they're your faaaaaaaamly" - no contact, phone, email and social media blocked.

Them: Can I do anything to help? I hate to think of your DPs lonely and old, etc
Me: No. They are very abusive. I don't want to get into it but I won't be talking about this with you again. I'm sorry you've been drawn in.
Them: Oh I'm so sorry, I didn't realise. I won't bring it up again. I hope you're okay.
-- That person I still talk to, but we only have superficial contact.

You need to do what you need to do to protect your mental health. If being in contact with your sister leaves you feeling in a worse state, then you should consider going NC.

You could always leave the door open a bit if she has a Road to Damascus moment.

The Stately Homes thread will help you, look on this Relationships board.

Thank you. With the ones you blocked - did you message them to tell them why or just block them? I’ll look up the Stately Homes thread.

Would not want to maintain a relationship with such a sibling. That person is really a "flying monkey" and is acting purely in their own self interest. Such people too are more often than not well meaning but useless and easily manipulated by the toxic person to do their dirty work for them. Your sibling is not interested in hearing your side of things so their opinion should be ignored.

I’m NC with parents. Regards to siblings I’m also NC, although one sibling I will be polite and say hello, how are you when I see her as she works in our local costa that I go into but I won’t sit and have a long deepful chat with her. I haven’t told any of them the reason why I’m NC with them, simply just blocked on any SM. X

All those I've blocked I've done so without letting them know, it's pointless to get into discussions after they've already shown they don't respect your boundaries.