Why would DH’s newish friend blush at meeting me?

[lonelyplanetmum]

Not a major one ( hopefully it’s very minor) but was it odd this school Mum blushed at me in the Tesco queue!?

DH now 53 has a bit of a track record. To cut a very long story short in the past he had repeated clandestine meetings with an ex whilst on business trips to Sydney and lied about it. That seems to have been behind us for quite a while but he has shown me he is capable of deceit.

He is very into cycling. He recently joined a group of about 20 Dads and 5 Mums at our DCs school on a big sponsored cycle ride. Since then he has continued cycling on Saturdays and Sundays with a Mum from the group. He has said things like a ‘person’ from the cycle group is coming out today. Because he used a gender neutral term I was on notice and observed it was nearly always one of the Mums (‘K’). Sometimes it’s just her and DH -sometimes one of his other cycling mates from his work joins them.

K’s children are younger and we’d never met. Today she was behind me in the Tesco queue. I said “ Hello you’re K aren’t you ?We’ve never met, I’m DHs wife.”

She blushed crimson -absolutely scarlet and confirmed that she was K.It was fine, she said I must have wondered who this strange woman he was going cycling was . I said I was used to his slightly obsessive hobbies, and we then chatted in the queue about their cycle trips, our DCs the school etc.
However why did she blush so much? Is that normal? She's got a senior Job and seems quite confident otherwise. I'm being hyper vigilant aren't I?

Well sadly I wouldn't call my DH lovely, although I would have done when we met! AF I wouldn't say being married to him is completely shit either. I think we are somewhere between lovely and shit!
There has been cause to give his past behaviour the examination it deserves. Believe me I was proactive I really was. Six years ago I think he was in the beginning stages of 'the script' over the ex . I did an early pre emptive strike and threw him out for three months because of the deceit. That time we ended up with joint and individual counselling etc. As a result of the previous concealments I am once bitten very shy.

At the moment there's only a few weekend cycle dates and Tesco blush!

Please don't just take this lady blushing as proof your husband is cheating. I mean you know him...I'm sure you can see other signs. But like I said I blush at anything, if every time I blushed around a female they thought I was sleeping with their husbands I'd be sleeping with 10 + blokes.

I would hedge a bet that the blushing signifies something. It may not suggest an affair, but perhaps some guilt that she may fancy your husband. She has some feelings for him even if they're buried.

I can blush randomly for no apparent reason!

However the whole cycling thing has me a little suspicious. All of those people and he is still cycling with one.

One female who just did a lobster in the checkout line.

I’d trust your gut in this one and I’d bet your gut isn’t feeling happy.

God there is nothing worse than blushing and people reading into it, knowing they are which makes you blush more.

There is a special circle in hell reserved for people who say "oh look, you're BLUSHING"

Also perhaps there is a level of intimacy through cycling which is entirely innocent hence the blush. She could have confided him about something and immediately thinks does she know too.

I do an odd role where I get to know people quite intimately in a none sexual way but sometimes they tell me something their spouse/partner doesn't know and meeting their partner can be awkward. If he is cheating you would probably know.