I have one sister. She is estranged from the family. On one hand she wants nothing to do with any of us. Her words were we were all dead to her. Then on the other hand she is completely fixated on us and she's has been harassing the family for a long time now.
She fell out with one brother about 5 years ago. She sent him abusive messages for living and working abroad. He wasn't contacting home much and she took it up badly. Instead of seeing it as him being busy, she saw it as him wanting nothing to do with the family. Her abusive messages hammered the nail in the coffin with their relationship.
About a year and half later me and her had a row. She made it very clear to me she wanted nothing to do with me and at the time I saw a lot of bad aspects with her personality like passive aggressiveness. I had so much on and for me I accepted what she said that she wanted nothing to do with me. Some months passed and she began to send me abusive messages. It was relating to the row we had and other rows that went on years before hand. Slapping so much blame on my back never mind about her own part in things. Her messages were despicable. They were so abusive, mocking me and degrading me. I never responded to any because what could I say to fix things? She had so much anger towards me. I had to change my number a few times. So much more came down the line from her in the years since then like she contacted my employer to warn her about how nasty I am and then she contacted my boyfriend too many times and tried to warn him too. Just trying to sabotage things for me. So much more happened too.
In time she developed an issue with our mother too. She came home visiting and one time she came home she saw my mother a lot of new photographs in her kitchen. They were all of her grandchild and whoever might have been holding her. There was no picture of my sister and my sister took this personally. She has blown all out of proportion. My mother never meant to exclude her but that was the story my sister has and to this day, 3 years down the line, she's still holding that to heart from our mother.
My mother got her own share of abusive messages from my sister.
I have another brother and he has no time in the world for her and that's his decision. He just went silent in her. She eventually came to realise this and took it badly. He too got his own share of pure solid abuse.
Over the past few years she has done some despicable things on the family. I could go on and on and on here but it will take me all evening. In recent times my brother learned how to block her on his phone but she still continued to sending him abusive messages.
All this from my sister, it's on and off. She will go quiet for a week or two or three then she starts it off again. She will direct it at either me or my brother or our mother. I found out changing my number doesn't solve things because she goes down other avenues.
In recent times my mother got an awful dose from her. 1000s of messages, message bombing our mothers phone. Containing just one abusive word.
In the past few mornings my mother got more messages from my sister and it's just completely vulgar. One message read
"I'm sorry I was such a disappointment to you all them years ago when I was born without a penis. You should have kept your legs closed bitch"
What a thing to text our mother.
Another message read:
"Our you still sucking X's cock"
X being my brothers name.
All this is completely vulgar and off the wall crazy.
We've been to the local cop station many times but they keep fobbing us off saying it's a civil matter.
Unfortunately going down the civil route will be very costly and there is so much on our plates right now too, other stresses and other drains on us financially too.
We are at our wits end though with this one. We can't go on like this. We've done all the ignoring that we could do imwhere harassment is concerned hoping it would go away but my sister is still persisting and continuing.
Has anyone been in a situation like this? Does it ever end or stop?