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Friendship problems

5 replies

The1Roars · 13/09/2018 17:12

Hey everyone, I'm new to mumsnet and I'm looking for some advice.

So I dated a girl for about 5 months. It was a good relationship at first but then it sought of faded away, for me at least, later into the relationship.
A couple weeks later, after the break up, I found out my friend T started dating my ex's twin, A. Due to this, T walks from school with his gf and my ex, and expects me to walk with him as well. I declined due to my ex being there, not in a sense that I don't like her, I just don't to live my life with her anymore, I want to move on. T had a hissy fit about this and said "the fact you don't want her in your life obviously means you hate her." Now I'm no genius intellect but I'm pretty sure it doesn't mean that at all. He's in a higher set than me in school, acted like I was stupid and tried to explain his point in a way you might explain something to a child, but more aggressively. So that's what happened.

Another instance like this involving him is when he said he was at the cemetery (near to where we meet up to walk to school) and I asked "where in the cemetery?" The place is massive and covers a large area.
Again he got angry because I didn't use my "common sense" as when he says "I'm at the cemetery" he means, "I'm at cemetery junction" (a cross road near the cemetery).
He blows up at very minor things which leaves me on edge.
Now I just accept the fact he's annoying sometimes and say I'll meet him half way down the cemetery. When I finally meet him, I try to explain my point of view and why I got confused. Again he gets angry at me, calls me stupid and tells me to "use your fucking common sense". At this point I ride off on my bike as to not escelate the situation, he then tells the story to kids in school with a couple lies to make me seem bad. It later gets resolved and I just forget it. The end.

What I'm trying to say is, judging by what you readers have just read, should I end the friendship? He's constantly condescending, and if I'm ever like that to him he can't take it and is an asshole about it and has to try and get back at me. He's rude, impolite to me. I mean we obviously have our good times, but then he always seems to piss me off in some way. Should I end the friendship?

OP posts:
Thingsdogetbetter · 13/09/2018 19:01

Condescending, tells you what you think, rude, impolite, an asshole and doesn't take your feelings seriously. Yeap. I'd let this very one-sided friendship slip away.

Reflexella · 13/09/2018 22:19

Yea let him go, put him at a distance.
Be civil but don’t engage

MellowMelly · 13/09/2018 22:26

Your mate sounds like a bit of a bully. Get yourself a new friend that doesn’t treat you like that.

The1Roars · 19/09/2018 15:49

Thx guys, you're a big help!!

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brassbrass · 19/09/2018 16:03

He's trying to put you down for some reason. From your writing I expect you have a lot of common sense so problem is with him and his inability to express himself without being nasty.

Real friends treat you better and look out for you. Find better friends.

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