An addict looking after a child

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I need opinions on what you would do in this situation. NC for this. Please be honest.

Ex dp and I have a child. Ex dp has had issues with drugs for a while and we have eventually split due to this and other issues such as emotional abuse. I know he is using cocaine quite frequently now. He's addicted and will use whilst in the house by himself not necessarily on a night out. He also uses cannabis daily.

What would you do about him having your child for the day or overnight? Our son is 18 months old so still very dependent. Don't want to be painted as the nasty ex but I am worried about this situation.

Djnoun that could be true if someone is just doing a bit of coke socially at the weekends and is recovered by weds/thurs. In my case it was more serious than this although my partner was secretive and clever at hiding his habit. He also held down a full time job. OP you must assess the extent to which you think this is affecting him, even if he doesn’t use midweek he could be tired, grumpy and sleepy etc. My partner would just go to bed on a come down and leave our child unsupervised while he slept with the bedroom door open.

@chasinggarlic I don't want to deny access but I desperately want it to be safe for ds. Which is difficult when he lies

That was his idea of parenting.

No way in hell would he be anywhere near my child if I were you. At least not until he past a drugs test anyway

Absolutely not. Get social services involved and then only agree to supervised visits.