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met a man friday night and he hasnt called...

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cloobydooby · 11/09/2018 19:01

went for drinks with a friend on Friday, who brought his work friend who he suggested I meet -as supposedly he's a lovely guy. we did actually hit it off and he took my number, my friend texted the next day to say he was really keen and really wanted to see me again-but I've heard nothing. we were tipsy but not drunk, I don't want to put my friend in an awkward position at work and also I've got some pride so haven't asked for any feedback yet. I know I'll just have to accept it and read "he's just not that into you" and move on quickly.... its just so horrible when you wait months and months then meet someone who you actually like who comes with a recommendation...not sure why I'm posting just want to get it out of my system I suppose!
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Creeper8 · 11/09/2018 19:05

I personally

Creeper8 · 11/09/2018 19:07

have a cut off point before im no longer interested as I always assume those who take long arent single

FuckItPassMeTheWine · 11/09/2018 19:24

He’s probably died ...that’s what I tell myself , they’ve all died. It makes me feel a lot better Smile sending hugs , know it’s disappointing , you’ll meet someone Flowers xx

Bluntness100 · 11/09/2018 19:25

It's only Tuesday. He may be busy,.,

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cloobydooby · 11/09/2018 19:27

thanks! just think if its a friend introducing you then you shouldn't take a number if you don't mean it, or he could have just texted something light saying see you(and mutual friend) sometime -deathly silence is awful and I wasted my weekend wondering if/when he might call....onwards and hopefully upwards!

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SamanthaBrique · 11/09/2018 19:29

Sorry but I think its a case if he’s just not that into you. If he was really interested then he’d have texted the next day or day after. Just chalk it up to experience and move on.

lemonadefloat · 11/09/2018 19:50

could he have taken your number down wrong?

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cloobydooby · 11/09/2018 19:57

he got me to type my number into his phone, it was a bit dark but I think it was right, he joked whether I'd given him a fake one. he is shy but don't see why that would stop anyone if they were really keen. he was away for the weekend but still think he should have texted , hoping my friend will come and ask for an update from me at some point, I'm seeing him Saturday, just wondering what the work conversations have been like as my friend is quite protective of me, he's gay and like a brother to me

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Mummymummums · 11/09/2018 20:00

It might be that your friend exaggerated a bit as he wanted it to be a success. Still possible you'll hear though I'd say tomorrow latest.

nicebitofquiche · 11/09/2018 20:04

I'm with the he's had an accident and unfortunately died reason. It's very sad but it's obviously the only reason he hasn't contacted you (that's what me and my mates used to console each other with anyway)

butterflysugarbaby · 11/09/2018 20:07

He didn't get your number down wrong, or lose it, and he isn't dead, and hasn't been in an accident.

He is just not that into you.

Sorry OP.

I certainly would not be contacting him. Not if HE said he would contact ME.

SmellMyBeads · 11/09/2018 20:08

He probably doesn't want to come across too keen. Bet he texts tomorrow to see what you're up to for the weekend.

Rebecca36 · 11/09/2018 20:14

It's only Tuesday, if he is interested and free he will ring you nearer to the weekend. He has a life other than you :-).

Angelf1sh · 11/09/2018 20:49

If you’ve not heard by Friday then he’s definitely not interested. Don’t ask your friend about it, it’ll make it awkward for them and embarrassing for you.

JessicaPeach · 11/09/2018 23:27

I’ve never gone with the unfortunately died scenario (but I do like it)

We used to give each other this pep talk: ‘there must be something wrong with him because there is NO reason that he wouldn’t be interested in you, you are a catch, he’s a fool if he didn’t realise!’

Hope he messages tomorrow op, if not, dust yourself off and give yourself a pep talk :)

Cuttingthegrass · 12/09/2018 07:27

Could be he doesn't want to appear too keen

Could be you put the number into his phone wrong as it was dark

Could be he's not that into you

Could be he's a little scared

But I think he's definitely not interested if he doesn't contact by the weekend and if your friend doesn't say xx tried to contact you but the number was wrong. Good luck OP !

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cloobydooby · 12/09/2018 07:40

thanks all, I am sure he would have called by now if he was going to so feeling a bit calmer now, its just so horrible to feel rejected-will have dusted myself off by the weekend and will get back out there

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Cuttingthegrass · 12/09/2018 07:44

I would give friend 0/10 for his matchmaking skills though Grin

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cloobydooby · 12/09/2018 07:49

yes we will be LOL about this soon!

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lionsgate18 · 12/09/2018 07:59

Listen you just never know! I met someone once and I didn't hear from them for 2 weeks afterwards. To be honest I'd forgotten all about it when they did get in touch. They'd been really busy and just wanted to get in touch when they were able to make plans. Try to put it out of your mind. I ended being in a relation for years with this person Grin

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cloobydooby · 12/09/2018 08:03

yes I think they key is to continue with your life regardless if you meet someone (I am no good at this)

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Funicorn · 12/09/2018 09:21

It's only Wed - give the bloke a chance !

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