HOw will I ever find anyone?

[AlwaysSunshine81]

Ive been thinking recenetly how I will ever find a man who I will be happy with. I rent a house, who is going to take me with 3 kids. Sorry it’s just such a stupid post but I’m so worried about my future

OP, this is sad to read. Do you think you can only be happy and comfortable with a man in your life? I really would work on being more confident in your life as it is now. Blokes can be shit anyway. Hope things look up for you soon x

Love your life. Men are a pain in the proverbial.

Op, you are so so wrong.

What sane man would refuse the chance to share his life with a determined resourceful sensible loving woman? Who has proved her ability to hold it together, to run a home, a life, a budget and not land her household in debt.

Don’t undervalue your talents and attractions.

Is it that you think no one will want to be with you because you rent? I won't tell you to be happy single or that men are over rated. But having a mortgage is not all its cracked up to be.

Thank you! That’s exactly what I want to do do. Get really Fit ( I go to the gym quite a bit) eat healthy and stop drinking wine so much 😳

And yes, purple is right, most men couldn’t run a bath.

Thank you so much 😘

When you say you are worried about your future do you mean financial security? Or being alone?

It depends really upon the person. I wouldn't be willing to take on someone else's children because I have my own to look after, but that's just me. If you do find someone make sure you set the limits of the relationship from the start and be honest. As long as he knows what he's getting into there are no surprises. If you said, for example, that you'd be financially responsible for their expenses yet then asked him to cover such things as schooling/holidays etc this might put him off. It's the expectation that's the problem not actually the thing itself. As long as everyone knows where they stand from the start it should be ok.

I rent and have two kids. I've found plenty of people to date, who have wanted to be with me even with my situation. You need to look at your beautiful children and think how lucky someone would be to have them in their life. Because I know with my little ones, someone would be SO lucky to join us.
I felt exactly how you did when I was first single. I thought nobody would ever want to date me. Dating is hard, but you need to change your perception from not being deserving of someone to being a prize.
Honestly, some guys would jump to have a family and someone who can truly love them. Stay positive, and work on yourself right now. Think of ways to make you feel better about your situation.

The way my girlfriend was owning life with two children, a problematic ex, and her job etc was actually very attractive to me. The fact she didn't need a man, basically!

@Seniorschoolmum , I was going to indignantly claim that I can in fact run a bath, but it's just occurred to me that both my girlfriend and her little girls think I run it way to hot. So maybe you're right ;)

I was in the same situation as you OP, I had three kids and single. I'm married now with another baby, we met online.
It wasn't that I needed a man in my life but it is lonely at times and it's nice to share the load with someone so I can understand you feeling like this.
You will meet someone eventually, now may not be the best time to look for it, but it usually happens when you least expect.

I have 3 kids and I rent and I'm happy as Larry single. I think escaping an abusive relationship made me realise how much I appreciate the small things I took for granted before. Happiness comes from within. Ok I didn't plan to be a single mother but for the most part I'm very happy.