Overthinking , relationship and MH

[Iamtheoneandonly2018]

After 3 years am coming off AD's. Dr suggested mind dose then every other day etc. DP of 3 years promised to support me on this. Have had issues with NDN ( parking, tree cutting.). Due to MH when her DD invited mine to a party - discussed it with DP who agreed to come with me and stay for the duration ( my DD is 4). He came but Waited in another room away from everyone. . I was soooooo anxious.i told him I was v v anxious and hed promised to support me. He told me if I was going to be like that he was leaving and not coming back to the party. He left. I stayed with my DD After the party I told him it was over as trust had been broken packed his things ( he has his own place ). And told him it was over. Blocked him.on phone and SM. He's sent an email saying ' please ring me. We need to talk'. This was Sunday - am I overreacting because of my Anti D's situation? Am so hurt he let me down

Min as in minimum not mine!
FYI party venue was 4 miles away

Do I bump this thread/ accept everyone's busy / go back under the duvet until I'm ready to face the world again

Is this the first incident of this kind? I'd be annoyed that he waited in another room as it's bloody rude to the other people at the party. Makes it very obvious he has an issue and I wouldn't want to be with somebody that childish! And yes he was unsupportive of you, so I'd be annoyed about that as well.

I don't know if I'd end a relationship over what you've described, unless it was the final straw. However, you're entitled to end the relationship at any time! How have you felt since ending things? Does he usually cause you stress deliberately!

Meant ? Not !

Thanks for the reply.

He has on occasion dine similar things but blamed them on asd ( not formally diagnosed ). The thing is - he promised to be there for me plus I told him about the party in July then reminded him a week ago )

Done not dine!

Just to say, till mnetters with better word skills come along, coming off ADs will decrease your mood, but that's why you had your dp promise to support you at a social event in the first place. I've been in similar situations, went to events on the strict condition that I wont be left unsupported and guess what they've immediately wandered off. I was furious. In my mind a big breach of trust. So I know how you feel. To agree on something when you are vulnerable and the exact opposite immediately happens. What part of "I'm relying on you for this", don't they understand.

So I dont think you are being unreasonable due to ADs. Will be interesting to find out what others think, and where to go from here.

Straight back to under the duvet methinks

Still not forgiven

Anyone?

It's impossible to know if you were right to end it or not without knowing your relationship history. I've been in situations like that with my DH and they hurt like hell but not enough to end it but then, I'm not in your relationship so I don't know what he's like the rest of the time.

It sounds like you need support but he may not be it.

I would not be ending the relationship over this. It does sound like it’s salvageable. Please hear him out at least. Yes he needs to make it up to you/promise not to act like that again/show you undying support with your medication tapering- but from your post I’d give him another chance. I think the meds withdrawal is magnifying the hurt and I wouldn’t make any life changing decisions at this point. Big hugs. I tried and failed to come off mine 😢

without knowing the ins and outs of your relationship its hard to tell. i can only say that when my dw came off ADs she quickly dropped mood, became very irrational , over the top, hated me and everything around her ...
she went back on the pills and was very sorry for her behaviour and said as soon as she was back on them she could see how poor her behaviour and mood had gotten. it's very tough to support someone through that, as much as you love them. so maybe think about what he is really like in all of your relationship and is he generally supportive and good?

He has ASD so, although he can be supportive, it's like he needs to build himself up to be so.....it's soooooo frustrating. Plus I think I've got Cassandra syndrome. Put the two things together and its not good even with anxiety etc

And that, said Topsy and Tim's mum, was that