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Problems with DPs ex

10 replies

Wreckitraplh · 11/09/2018 13:29

Bit of a backstory.

I’ve been with my DP for 6 years but friends for much longer, we have two DCs and are happy together.

We got together quite quickly after he split with his ex but there was no overlap, nothing was planned and it just happened that we had began to see each other around more just after their split.

His ex found us getting together very hard and became aggressive towards me, DP and his family on numerous occasions. As did her friends and family. I took the moral high ground and gave no reaction to her behaviour and never have.

This is STILL going on and I don’t know what to do anymore.

She turns up if I’m in the supermarket, the pub, local events and has followed me around in her car, it’s intimidating. I’m really anxious about going anywhere.

I thought she would’ve given up by now seeing as she is engaged to someone else but it’s still going on and we are due to move nearer to her and I’m dreading things getting worse.

Will the police be able to do anything if she doesn’t actually do anything?

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Spanglyprincess1 · 11/09/2018 13:31

Of course the police can. If you feel threatened you should report it.
Why on earth are you moving near her???

Cawfee · 11/09/2018 13:32

Why don’t you move further away rather than closer!!!

TomaszIsMineBitch · 11/09/2018 13:33

Call the police non emergency as this is harrassment.
6 bloody years and she still hasnt let go? Bloody hell shes a nutter!

Does your dp have and dc with her ?

Wreckitraplh · 11/09/2018 13:33

Do you think it’s worth keeping a diary to present to the police?

To be nearer family, childcare and schools. It’s a lovely area and will be ideal for the kids growing up.

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Wreckitraplh · 11/09/2018 13:35

Does your dp have and dc with her ?

No DCs together.

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TomaszIsMineBitch · 11/09/2018 13:50

Yes yes to keeping a diary also report to 101 every time she harrasses you so that police have a record of it.

SandyY2K · 11/09/2018 13:53

What does your DP say about it?

Does she follow him too?

Wreckitraplh · 11/09/2018 16:25

She does the same to him but he has a thicker skin than me.

I wish I could just shrug it if but it’s really had an impact on my life as I avoid going places in case I see her.

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Santaclarita · 11/09/2018 20:44

She sounds nuts. Call the police about her.

Ilove80s · 11/09/2018 20:46

Sorry but moving closer to her sounds like the worst thing you could do. You are anxious about seeing her but you might genuinely bump into her and see her around even if she is not deliberately following you.

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