Can't do it anymore

[onemoresmartie]

Long story short me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years minus last year when he moved away to sort himself out and we both moved on and met other people but found our way back to each other
Things were great when we first got back together in February he was making all the effort in the world and I really felt like the happiest girl in the world

However 6 months down the line he seems to have gone back to some of his old ways about generally not giving a shit about me or anyone else but himself...sleeping 12/13 hours a night lies in bed till 2pm, has made no effort to learn to drive which I said was really important for our lives to move forward.

Things have came to a head since last weekend and I think we are done for good this time.

I just don't want to make the mistake I did last time and call it a day and regret it.
I look around at other couples and they all seem to support each other and have an equal partnership and working towards goals.
We don't have that and not for the want of me trying. We don't live together and can't see that happening, I have a secure house and a life for my ds where I am and he has made it clear he won't move back to this area due to past problems (drugs, owing money etc )

I really don't think we have any future anymore and it's breaking my heart

Does he work nights if he doesn't get up until 2pm.

No he's a chef so he works till about 10pm
He does oversleep and I have tried to help him but by 2pm I've done half a day at work and not even spoke to him or had any form of communication
I got a text today at 2pm saying morning

Does he even work? He sounds very immature.

He really doesn’t sound worth breaking your heart over, OP. You are putting in all the effort to try and make the relationship work, while he takes the piss and stays in bed all day, making no compromises or changes whatsoever.
What’s so wonderful about this useless lump, that you actually want to waste any more of your valuable time on him? Why not kick him out and start enjoying your own space, or look for a chap who will actually care about you and give you some love in return?

Sorry crossed post

I think I'm going to have to and when I've told him how I was feeling today he said he wasn't arguing anymore and said it was boring
I feel so hurt, he flips everything round on me and my stroppyness and me being like that is a result
Of his behaviour and attitude towards me.
He expects me to put how I feel under the rug and not say anything and just put up with it and I can't anymore

Well, LTB! Hopefully there are no DC!

No dc together just my little boy who is quite attached to him but to be fair rarely sees him and that is the only thing that is keeping me holding on tbh the feeling of letting him down and breaking his heart

This is exactly how my partner is with me. I’ve got to the point where I’ve given up saying anything because he just doesn’t care to listen or will agree with a huff and then not go through with what I needed off him anyway.

We’ve been together 4 years and a similar situation - I broke it off lasts year and ended up getting back after 6 months.

I do feel for you but you aren’t alone.

And similar on the child front too! My daughter isn’t his but was so upset last year when we broke up.

I’ve started to feel like I’m staying for nothing, my reasons aren’t reasons anymore they are just excuses. A year or so down the line we will be fine won’t we? And we will probably come to terms that we should have left ages ago.

Baby goose

I just don't see any point in being miserable in a relationship anymore sometimes it just won't work no matter how hard you want or try

I just don't want to make the mistake I did last time and call it a day and regret it
It wasn't a mistake the 1st time.
It was mistake getting back together again.
Please stop flogging this dead horse and get out there and live life to the fullest!

Finally ended things today
Blocked on all avenues
No contac starts tomorrow
I hope I can be okay